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Image of cupid and heartNot everyone using online dating sites is looking for love. Scammers create fake online profiles using photos of other people — even stolen pictures of real military personnel. They profess their love quickly. And they tug at your heartstrings with made-up stories about how they need money — for emergencies, hospital bills, or travel. Why all of the tricks? They’re looking to steal your money.

As if all that isn’t bad enough, romance scammers are now involving their victims in online bank fraud. Here’s how it works: The scammers set up dating profiles to meet potential victims. After they form a “relationship,” they come up with reasons to ask their love interest to set up a new bank account. The scammers transfer stolen money into the new account, and then tell their victims to wire the money out of the country. Victims think they’re just helping out their soulmate, never realizing they’re aiding and abetting a crime.  

Here are some warning signs that an online love interest might be a fake. They ask you to:

  • chat off of the dating site immediately, using personal email, text, or phone
  • wire money using Western Union or Money Gram
  • set up a new bank account

Did you know you can do an image search of your love interest’s photo in your favorite search engine? If you do an image search and the person’s photo appears under several different names, you’re probably dealing with a scammer. And if the person’s online profile disappears a few days after they meet you, that’s another tip-off.

Here’s the real deal: Don’t send money to someone you met online — for any reason. If your online sweetheart asks for money, you can expect it’s a scam.

Unfortunately, online dating scams are all too common. There may be tens of thousands of victims, and only a small fraction report it to the FTC. If this happens to you, please report it at ReportFraud.ftc.gov.

A woman looking at a dating site on her computer.

Oliver
August 24, 2017

In reply to by Elle

What was his name? Can you send picture? I have a guy right now asking me to send money for a package

Pogiwowo
September 21, 2016

In reply to by muffin123

Please do not send money to him he is not real.Cut it now before you lose your money.I was involved with this kind of man he won't stop asking large amount of money until all money is gone.Then he will leave you broke and emotionally distraught.
Mariah
July 07, 2017

In reply to by muffin123

I had the same experience. I quit contact with him for 2 months and he still tried to keep convincing me to stay with him, help him come to America to marry me. He was so convincing and gave me so much positive validation that even though I knew he was a scammer I kept contacting him. I have now completely cut off communication with him although he continues to email me often. It's hard because I get lonely but I don't want to be a victim of scammers or waste my time. You can break free of his grip
Chris_1996
August 19, 2017

In reply to by Mariah

Hi, I know what you are dealing with this happens to me countless times but I expose them. They often get offended when I call them out. Be careful out there.
Katg
July 09, 2017

In reply to by muffin123

I know how you feel. I'm in the same predicament myself. So, don't let this bring you down. Think of Karma, trust me they will get theirs
almosttakentoc…
July 18, 2017

In reply to by Adaughter

Man, by the name of Hugh Miller, claims to work off shore drilling rig, introduced himself to somebody I'm going to be a future in-law with using the same name and photo. Daughter is in S. Africa being raised by his ex-wife, died of cancer, so he has to get monies to her (Hilda) so she can still continue her Catholic schooling. Supposedly in Johannesburg, actually I have his pic if anyone is interested. Said he was Irish/Italian. Be very careful.
Milly
August 23, 2017

In reply to by almosttakentoc…

We must had the same guy. Very romantic and beautiful love songs. Swept me off my feet. He also had his 2 daughters in boarding school. His wife who was Mexican past away and he was working for drilling company in the middle of the ocean. But I will never give money to a man he has to give me..lol I also have pictures .
NoWay!
August 25, 2017

In reply to by Milly

Milly: I just left a comment above, please read it. I feel the 3 of us may be speaking about the same person! Is there a way to verify this?
Milly
August 29, 2017

In reply to by Milly

I am talking to the same guy and yes he has swept me off my feet with beautiful songs and poems. He has 2 daughters in Boarding school and his Mexican wife past away. ANd he works for Mercer a drilling company. I have a picture with his daughter. I could give my email and you could exchange pictures Please let me know. He has not asked for money yet.
Ms MD
September 26, 2017

In reply to by Milly

I think I have been talking to the same guy , I had a gut feeling he was a scam , he didn't ask me for money he ask me to send him I tune cards, I question him about if he's such a big business man that has his own oil company , why can't he buy his own cards , and I told him I know he was fake , and than I deleted him and. My Facebook page , Its all the same he has a daughter his mom lives in Turkey no other family here and he just won some big oil contract and he's going to China for a month , I know he was a scammer from the start ,
countrynyte1981
March 26, 2019

In reply to by Milly

Please send me his picture I might be dating him I'm praying to God I'm not but please send me the picture
simon1982
September 14, 2016

In reply to by donand2015

WOW! Really sounds exactly like the situation I am in.....he is saying he is in the army his English is perfect! But we have not spoken on the phone, he says he is widowed and his daughter has a guardian...........says his daughter went to vacation in India and she got malaria...needs money to help her because he cannot get to this money..... Asking for a small amount!!! OMG its amazing how emotionally invested we can get into these things. I have been telling him that I will send the money..and then I told him I didn't believe him and he got very annoyed with me when I told him this...Said he was or is a high ranking military man. Sounds like the same person!! Did he say his name?
jeannab
October 17, 2016

In reply to by donand2015

I think I am dealing with the exact same person as you would you be willing to FaceTime or call me on the phone I was really wanting to get to the bottom of this ? If yes email me and I will send you my phone number Thank you Jeanna

FTC Staff
October 17, 2016

In reply to by jeannab

We don't publish personal information like phone numbers or email addresses on this blog.

Victim
February 08, 2017

In reply to by FTC Staff

Pls help me if iam a victim of scammer? I met him in waplog site and continue our courting in fb then invite me to make an account in gmail, he told me he's a commanding general in us army and was assigned in Afghanistan, his wife died in a fatal accident and had a 14yrs old son studying in boarding school,to make the story short we became boyfriend and girlfriend promising me a bright future. After 3 weeks he's asking me for a financial help for his son's field trip for the reason he can't access to his account because they We're restricted to access in their account,that time I begin to doubt and think he's a scammer, his name was general Stewart Morgan 52 yrs old with a son Andre morgan Pls hep me how to know if he's realmor not

FTC Staff
February 08, 2017

In reply to by Victim

This could be a scam. These things warn you that someone could be a scammer:

  • he meets you on a dating site, but soon asks you to chat off the dating site in private
  • he say he's from the US, but he's traveling outside the US
  • he says he has money, but he can't use his money right now
  • he says his child or family member has an emergency and needs your money.

If you send money, you probably will not get that money back. He might tell you more stories and ask for more money.

Amy
August 08, 2017

In reply to by FTC Staff

A army guy in Syria says he has 1.8 million and wants to transfer it from red cross to my account. Is this on the up and up. I met him of Facebook and we communicate via hangouts
FTC Staff
August 08, 2017

In reply to by Amy

This sounds like a scam. A real soldier in the U.S. Army who needs to send legitimate money would use a bank.

If you tell a scammer your bank account number, he can take your money. He might say he will put money in, but he can take money instead. If you accept stolen money into an account that has your name, you could put yourself and your money at risk.

Me too
May 25, 2017

In reply to by Victim

This sounds like the guy that friended me on messenger about 2 weeks ago ,. He's 52, a widower with 24 year old son in boarding school in Atlanta Georgia. This guy is a general in the Army, he's in Syria right now Says I'm the woman of his dreams likes older woman I'm 10 years older! Writes all these beautiful little letters to me every day.. Then he had his son write me from boarding school calling me mom because his dad said I'd be his new mom... Now the kid needs $380.00 for a school excursion and he can't get hold of his dad. Now the dad is asking me to send the son the money and as soon as he's back in the states he'll pay me back I told him I have no money ( I do) but he's insisting I borrow it from someone to help out his son asap. He can't get to funds because he's in Syria and I said have the base forward funds and he gets upset. If I ask questions like what do you like in music or food Just general questions he says why I ask so many questions don't I trust him? I keep playing along to see what his scam is. I'm sure once he knows I can't send money he'll get mad and not chat anymore.. Plus all he wants to talk about is sexual things.. This is creepy. He said his bday I'd April 14 but his Facebook says May 5. Plus no photo of him How do I report this
Too smart
August 13, 2017

In reply to by Me too

I've just blocked and gotten rid of one who definitely sound like the same person. However he's a 57 yr old with a son on boarding school . This is the email his supposedly son sent me .. and I had only been taking to him for 4 days .. the email at the bottom was from him too .. *********** Good day I'm so happy to hear from you My father told me about you My name is Mark and 13 I have two friends Tony and Michael and we are all in the standard 7 .. My father told me that you have a good heart, My dad is the best dad in the world, but up till now have not seen my Dad he has been away for a long time.. Do you love my father May I call you Mom I love football and want to play for Chelsea, which is my biggest dream, i love Dogs and my best food is Chicken and Salad with fried Rice. Thank you so much I want to hear more from you. Hug Hug Hug *************************** Finding it difficult to sleep as i sit here thinking about you. I've come to realize that my affection for you grows each and everyday. In such a short period, i'm totally addicted to you. I pray and hope that you and I can be together, that is more than just lovers but will be forever together. For now, I've written this piece to declare my love for you and I will be right here praying and loving and missing you.you are everything i really need,do take good care of you for me.hugs and kisses to you honey and i wish you a stress free day.
scamcatcher
August 15, 2017

In reply to by Victim

Hi it is a complete scam, same story different names...but dead wife, 14 year old son John studying abroad etc. etc. they went as far as face timing me and the guy didn't look like pic with sa,e tattoos. Then he same pics show up under another user name.
Victim too?
March 19, 2018

In reply to by Victim

Your story sounds eerily familiar. "Teran Calderon" befriended me on FB on Dec. 11, 2017. Stated he was a 4-star General in Army, based in Kabul, Afghanistan, has a 14 year old son in boarding school, and his wife died in a car accident 5 years prior. After I have sent too much money, so that a "consignment box" can be delivered to me, his messaging has slowly decreased. His Barrister has emailed me that I will be receiving he box sometime this week. We'll see......Today's date is March 19, 2018.
DonFAITH't use…
May 17, 2019

In reply to by FTC Staff

I have been chatting with a man that goes by Paul Delcour Thomas. He says his in the Army with Special Operations. He has been asking for money because he is sick of high blood pressure and eye problems, and needs to come home. I have not seen him face to face nor actually I don't know if his an American or a resident of Nigeria. His words don't make any senseat all. He calls me my queen or babe. Does anyone know anything about him?
Essiemc20
January 02, 2017

In reply to by donand2015

I was contacted through a dating site by a Man in the Army saying he was based there and as a special unit and unable to send new pictures due to cctv being on base (red flag) but he is very good and even sent me a screen shot of his supposed bank account back home saying he could use his money in Nigeria (where he is based). This is after he told me the Army and Nigerian government was providing bad food for them and he was staving because he couldn't get to his money there. I was convinced it was a scam and when he sent his financial security officers info it was even worse. Name: Name: Brendan ****, country: Nigeria, zipcode: 23434 Here is my financial secretary info. I was like wow he's good. So avoid Harris Randy
Livvie78
June 01, 2016

In reply to by FTC Staff

What if they ask you to wire money for their own account to another account for say a plane ticket home.
FTC Staff
June 02, 2016

In reply to by Livvie78

If someone you don't know asks you to wire money, he might be trying to get your bank account number. Or, he might be trying to get you to help with a crime.

A scammer could transfer stolen money into an account, and then tell ask you to wire the money. If you don't really know the person, you can't know where the money comes from or where it is going.

franda
July 05, 2016

In reply to by FTC Staff

Bridget - I met someone on Match a few months ago. He says he's a pipeline engineer recently moved from the UK to the USA. He says he is a widower with a daughter. He has professed his love and everything seemed above board until today when he told me he is short $38K to pay for shipping on supplies he needs for a job he is working in Alaska. He has had me helping him work with his supplier in China, his banker in the UK and I have seen his passport. The red flags went up this morning after the request to help. How do you know if someone is real? I have a copy of his passport, but how do you even know if that is real?
FTC Staff
July 05, 2016

In reply to by franda

Unfortunately, when you communicate with someone online, you can't know who he (or she) really is. You might get texts or see pictures, but you can't know who is sending them.

You spotted one big red flag: your 'sweetheart' asked for money because of an emergency. If someone you don't know -  and never met - asks for your money,  it's probably a scam. If you send money, you're probably going to lose it.

Bobbit
August 08, 2016

In reply to by FTC Staff

What name is he using and what's his daughters name
Lmckee
August 31, 2017

In reply to by Bobbit

I met a Peter and he states he has a son and daughter David and Jenny. He is widowed, 49 years old in the Army and is now asking me to send itunes card for internet access as he is on his last deployment in Kenya? I am not sending a dime as I do not have extra. I looked him up and he states they blocked all his info.? He claims that they blocked all his credit cards. He states he is originally from Germany but has a Spanish accent? He states he needs the money so he can communicate with me, hell what about communicating with your children who you say you left in Tampa Florida during this deployment?
Mama63
February 22, 2017

In reply to by FTC Staff

Was. His name Mark and daughter Clara????
Kindasickofbei…
May 16, 2017

In reply to by Mama63

Clara Viger is the name of this "person" Checked out web searches and the same person with the same pics do not seem to exist! Is there anything that you could tell me? Her user name is Teedee
legalquestion
July 18, 2017

In reply to by Kindasickofbei…

What kind of trouble could you get in if you took and kept the money they wanted wired to them?
FTC Staff
July 20, 2017

In reply to by legalquestion

Some criminals use people to help them send and receive stolen money. They might develop online relationships and ask their new sweetheart or friend to accept a deposit and transfer funds for them. Or, they might recruit victims with job ads that seem like they’re for legit jobs, but they’re not. Law enforcement calls the victims ’money mules.’ If you get involved with one of these schemes, you could lose money and personal information, and you could get into legal trouble. You might end up cooperating with a criminal or depositing stolen money in your bank account.

janicestancill
July 28, 2017

In reply to by Mama63

Was his name Mark Morgan and has a daughter in Catholic school
Cantos
July 05, 2019

In reply to by Mama63

My aunt is being scammed by this guy! Name is Mark, 55, widow, lives in Tampa, and has a daughter named Clara. He says he’s a welder or something. Can you tell me more about him? He has not asked her for money yet but I fear that is coming and she’s very wrapped up in it.
used
July 12, 2016

In reply to by franda

My friend, my story is similar. The guy is from Facebook. He messaged me first. Says he is a widow, wife died having another child that died.he has an 11 year old daughter. Everything was wonderful until he went to turkey for a job.he supposedly owned a business & had money.he sent me tons of.pics of him & the daughter.he is supposedly coming to visit me in august when he returns from his job.when he got to the job his credit card didn't work.he asked me for thousands of dollars. So I decided to play him.i sent a very.small amount. Before he got very angry at me & was a different man. Then after I sent him a small amount, then he needs more money for his hotel room where he is staying while working. He claims he is a pipeline engineer. He want get anything else from me.not only did he get a small amount of.money but he has broken my heart. But when he calls again I will ignore him in the future. I am done!!! Ladies & gentleman please don't send anything to anyone.
mrscpmjr
July 17, 2016

In reply to by used

This story sounds very similar to one a friend of mine is getting from a man that contacted her on FB. He lives in Houston, owns a building company, widower with a daughter (has a pic), going to China. Did your scammer have an 83 year old father?
starshine
September 08, 2016

In reply to by mrscpmjr

Yeah I got scammed by a guy in Houston .I should have known but was low at the time having lost my Son. Goes under the name Daniel Robinson. Confessed his love for me and wanted to marry me so took retirement from the us army . He was based in Kabul . Wife died has a daughter. Then the requests for money started . The latest request I saw the light but a little to late after a year of scamming me.
gotfooledtoo
September 28, 2017

In reply to by starshine

starshine I have a guy ,met on fb ,sounds similar to yours.I was also going through a very depressing year wife died with lung cancer.He showed up asking to be friended.US Army , Sgtmj retiring soon .Houton Tx has one son one grandson. OK fool me but he went along for months, oh I forgot to mention he is in Afghanistan on special ops.wanted me to pay to get phones hooked up so we could talkhe wanted to hear my sweet voice & I would be able to call him even he was out in field. Haha got cha.He was raised in Brazil so when he had the accent I started to be suspicious called him on it , he had good story for that,a few weeks later he ask for iTunes so we could communicate better ,ok sounded straight got cha again ,still we talk he professes love sends pictures of the boys & his home of him name on uniform same, we chatted on messenger, gmail, after about 6 mos he got taken down said he was hacked & fb was getting it cleared up, not, went to hangouts,all of a sudden he is upset being sent to deadly desert asked me to send money to leave department to get him out of there. I thought he was going to have a stroke he was so afraid of going to desert. The leave dept contacted me by gmail asking for $18000 OK beginning to think something really wrong He is very upset because I don't have the money but he still calls & text sends pictures , music , & writes beautiful words .I know in my mind he's fake but after a year it is hard to break an old habit.I have done image search found nothing yet but still searching. But know I am slowly getting him out my life. working on all my computer users & passwords.
girlie't use
January 31, 2017

In reply to by used

Sounds like DavidPaul28 . scammer
Cautious4sure
May 24, 2018

In reply to by used

Was the daughter’s name Emily? Does she have red curly hair? Are there several pics of the two of them together wearing baseball hats?
cando
August 27, 2016

In reply to by franda

what sort of passport was it? what was the china supplier's name if you can tell me, sounds similar to what im dealing with.
Noname
October 12, 2016

In reply to by cando

The story sounds like mine. The guy said he is from Texas and now working at Dubai To convince me, he sent me the driving license and usa passport. I guess those are fake documents.
Noname
August 07, 2017

In reply to by Noname

I think now he's going by the name of kenneth Collins he has two daughters and wife died giving birth he has tattoos, he fair skinned with green eyes
jlildev13
August 28, 2017

In reply to by Noname

Speaking to a leslie dawson said his wife died giving birth says he is currently serving a mission in damacus Syria sound like same guy white w tattoos and brown hair blue eyes
Devastated and angry
April 04, 2017

In reply to by cando

sounds also like Charles Jason and or James Cadman engineer working in a rig in Alaska has a place in texas lived in California where he wife and son had a horrible car accident and died
My Lady
January 01, 2018

In reply to by cando

This very embarras .how. Come they dont.do anything to apregent.this people .I think.im.also a victim.. But mi said.Most.his.wife.willed giving birtb to his.child they.both.dye A d.acordingg to him he haved to cash.a check for over.a million so hs.need.help.paying for trasaction..it toock closed to 30.000 fro. Me . very educated romantic good looking.also said he.will married me and purchase a house.he supose to.arribe on 12/31/17 and still waiting for.him..This men it be1oked mi heart.not only took mi money .i.oved credit cards.loands.lost everytbing i haved a d i.haved to find a place to moved out..but.is to lated for.me.caused.i.haved to end .milife. To be abler help mi gra skids ..But i did beleived everything he said to him. I love him a d still LOVE him This person is not the same picture his.using i. M very.embarras by this
val
October 29, 2016

In reply to by franda

This sounds just like the guy i'm talking to ...we need to talk omg