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Image of cupid and heartNot everyone using online dating sites is looking for love. Scammers create fake online profiles using photos of other people — even stolen pictures of real military personnel. They profess their love quickly. And they tug at your heartstrings with made-up stories about how they need money — for emergencies, hospital bills, or travel. Why all of the tricks? They’re looking to steal your money.

As if all that isn’t bad enough, romance scammers are now involving their victims in online bank fraud. Here’s how it works: The scammers set up dating profiles to meet potential victims. After they form a “relationship,” they come up with reasons to ask their love interest to set up a new bank account. The scammers transfer stolen money into the new account, and then tell their victims to wire the money out of the country. Victims think they’re just helping out their soulmate, never realizing they’re aiding and abetting a crime.  

Here are some warning signs that an online love interest might be a fake. They ask you to:

  • chat off of the dating site immediately, using personal email, text, or phone
  • wire money using Western Union or Money Gram
  • set up a new bank account

Did you know you can do an image search of your love interest’s photo in your favorite search engine? If you do an image search and the person’s photo appears under several different names, you’re probably dealing with a scammer. And if the person’s online profile disappears a few days after they meet you, that’s another tip-off.

Here’s the real deal: Don’t send money to someone you met online — for any reason. If your online sweetheart asks for money, you can expect it’s a scam.

Unfortunately, online dating scams are all too common. There may be tens of thousands of victims, and only a small fraction report it to the FTC. If this happens to you, please report it at ReportFraud.ftc.gov.

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Tan deh
September 13, 2020
Oscar Harrison the surgeon ask too much questions, told him I don’t talk my personal business on social media, also want my picture which I refuse, the guy is on scrabble go, his spelling is very bad for a surgeon, he said he had 2 daughters in boarding schools lost there mom 7 years ago had a dog name fluffy, while in Syria he has given a phone which only for government purposes and only talk to his daughters by walkie talkie, he said I am smart and he won’t eat my picture, I got bored and block him, stay single don’t fall for these guys they are thieves.
Sickofit
September 13, 2020
I have been online dating this guy for exactly two months now. He said he fell in love with me the moment he saw me and that I am his queen. He works as a pilot for a prominent Brazilian airline. Has a 8 yr old daughter living with his mom in FL. He is Brazilian and Portuguese but born in US. He is constantly flying to places and is helping in relief efforts for Covid. He texts and calls all day. Share pics Of his sister brother and daughter. Knows I have two kids. He is trying to branch out into oil and crypto. Wants to be settled. Can’t video call from the base. Speaks very well, very articulate, poetic, sings to me and prays with me every day at night. He asked me open an account for him to deposit money for the oil project. I said I can’t because I am going thru a divorce and I can’t open an account. But prior to that he as been sick of and on and today. I got an email from his friend that he fell unconscious at the gym and in critical condition. I haven’t heard from either of them since. I figured since he didn’t get anything from me this was his way of breaking up or faking his death. I thought he deserves and Oscar for his performance. He not once asked me for money but I feel this new development with his Health will Prompt for it. I am waiting to get that message to hit the final nail in the coffin. Funny thing he is extremely good looking never talked about sex or anything g degrading. He sent a lot of pics and videos of him on vacations. I don’t know if it’s for real or not but this makes me wonder. Wow I feel like such a fool! Very disappointed. Love is a scam. Sad! His name is Greg C Peters.
Tobyjug
September 14, 2020

In reply to by Sickofit

Queen was a favourite of the guy who reeled me in . He was a real pro - unfortunately I fell for it.
BEYOND WORDS
October 09, 2020

In reply to by Sickofit

Hey sickofit, did he sing all of me wants all of you? And is he bold with really beautiful blue eyes fantastic smile with amazing white teeth mustache and beard?
Heart broken
September 13, 2020
Anyone one on here been talking to a Daniel Blood Kent that's the name he is been using if so please let me no been talking to him for seven months now sent him money few times 5 the first 2 the second plus 50 roller gift card says he in the military I know he is not now but still got broken heart because of him specially since had is the first guy I ever even wanted to talk to or be with in almost 26 years since I devorced my husband being 58. And insecure makes wanting to date anyone or trust any one really hard then guys like him come along and make it even harder to trust thank u
Questions
September 13, 2020
Is there a gold bar trick going around. My friend is stuck on this girl says she has gold bars in cuba?
cmac
September 16, 2020

In reply to by Questions

Yes! I was scammed by Sqt Walter Handy who received a reward for finding the daughter of a politician in Iran who was being held hostage. His reward: two consignment boxes - one with gold bars and the other with 100 dollar bills in 10K increments. I received the two videos to prove what was in the boxes - $19 million total. The Cuban operation is McBens Agency and they work through JP Morgan Bank to receive their wire transfers. The story begins with payment to ship the boxes to the US and the need to change ownership and pay for delivery ... then you learn about the "unpaid" rental fee that is due. Then some "incident" happens where a diplomat must come to take the boxes to the U.K. who works with as a diplomatic courier for the Royal British Agency. You then need to pay the taxes and get Certificates for the gold - which all look very "offical" I received copies of all of the documents with my name and address as the ship to person. I received airline confirmation notifications as well as Customs Xray's. The story can get convoluted. I fell victim to these scammers. They will bleed you dry while expressing their love and commitment to "forever." Run. Run fast and don't look back.
Christine
September 13, 2020
I like to get this out there to warn others. A man named John Grage real good looking man with a go te gray hair and bead claims he is working in Qatar but done now and needs money for Paper fees he claims to get back to USA said he is wife & Daughter got killed in a car accident about 8 Years ago and he is from Ft. Worth Texas. has any one got contact with him I have plenty of pictures
billieluczak17…
September 13, 2020
I have a friend who is taking too a guy name David Walker says he was working on a bridge in Nigeria and for 2 1/2 years she has been sending him money he has professed his love and broke allot of promises does anyone know this name David Smith walker?
BUDDHA001
September 13, 2020
INTERESTING THAT MOST OF THESE ARE FROM WOMEN, IM A MAN THAT HAS DEALT WITH A FEW SCAMMERS FROM THE ALT.COM WEBSITE. I HAD A WOMAN NAMED JENA LAWRENCE SCAM ME OUT OF MANY OF DOLLARS SAYING SHE WAS STRANDED IN LITTLE ROCK COMING TO MEET ME. AS A RESULT I STUPIDLY GAVE HER MY DEBIT INFO AND SHE PROCEEDED TO REMOVE 1340.00 FROM IT. WANTING TO HAVE A GIRLFRIEND TOO BADLY CAUSED THIS AND NOW I JUST LIVE A QUIET SMALL LIFE BY MYSELF. NEVER AGAIN
Wise lady
September 14, 2020
Any body heard of the name kelvin pual from uk? He is a scammer
Martha22't use…
September 14, 2020
I'm sorry that all of us are getting scamed ive been taking to a catfish name is Phillip stefan carlos very good looking photo but I definitely believe he has hacked this guy's photos and video and using them as bait , he asks for money and to help him get a iTunes card and also help pay to aent a box to me ot to his nanny claiming he has military records and jewelry over 3000.00 or more i have not given him any money to help him with this but he is certainly very persistent , he is very manipulative, always aent chesse i love sticks and photos suck ! I dont know how to reveal his true identity all i have is his supid email address
tgtbt23
September 14, 2020
We need to find a way to stop these scammers from taking innocent people's hard earned money and in some cases their entire life's savings and then some. There's got to be a way to stop them, we just have to figure it out.
Sam
September 14, 2020
I just need to know who to get someone to stop texting but this person is on hangout app and she wont leave me alone but he number is blocked on hangout and I dont want to talk to her anymore .
Laura
September 15, 2020
i am talking with a soldier who says his name is Benjamin Feller Fernández. He ask me for money but he told me to buy steam cards and I did he told that his credit on the phone was almost empty I believe it and bought the cards. That was the first week the second week he ask me for another steam card for his son becaise he couldn't get him anything on his birthday. He said he is from Connecticut his dad is British his mom is Peruvian his wife passed away 4 years ago, his son is in a place for army families that they don't have a place where to go. He is bold good looking he has tattoos al over his arms. Is almost the same story as the other women i read in the blog. How can we know who is doing this and why nobody can do anything to stop it.
Lalala
September 15, 2020
I been scammed and gave money to this guy name Tony Kennedy Ulrich. I met him on dating site First met. He insisted me take off on that site immediately. He described himself as a Navy Petty Officer. He told me he lost both of his parents when he was seven and his grandma from Colorado picked him up from Italy who is now suffering from amnesia. His uncle helped him to get in the navy whom he hasn’t spoke with for long because he’s went back to Europe. And that he is also a jeweller apart from being in the military, buy and sell gold and diamonds. He is very cunning. I knew something fishy but for some reason I fell on him and ended up losing some money. And then I met another one named Troy Marcus Damato from Stockton as he introduced himself and is in the army deployed in Hama Syria His profile can be found in a dating site Edate ( mate 1) . He has 3 photos,1 with a girl both standing , one is sitting on a table on a checkered blue long sleeves shirt, and one is holding a puppy. He asked me to get him a steam wallet card. I sensed he is a scammer so I stopped talking to him. Be ware of them. I advice all women don’t date military men on dating sites they are scammers. They will tell you they’ve been in the military for 20 or 19 years and will retire soon or be back home in a month or before the end of the month and they will ask you for Vanilla card or steam wallet card. They will also tell you that their birthday is in 3 days and ask you to send them gifts. And that’s how I got scammed. Yes scammers use military profiles because it is very convincing and so natural but they are scammers.I hope and pray they will get their reward and get punished. Ladies be smart on dating sites. Do some investigations if you can.! Did but it was too late when I realised Tony Kennedy Ulrich doesn’t even exist. Troy Damato didn’t get any from me. But him and Tony has the same strategy.
Concerned
September 15, 2020
Herbert Gregory? Anyone been scammed by him?
Senior
September 15, 2020
watch out for Derick Compo, Jeff Anderson, John Mark Saunders, David Osomas Turner, George Santos,
Don't bg719600…
September 15, 2020
I didn't no any thing about scammers scammers can take your bank account change the way they they look and put another person's Emails to get into you're acount and steel all you're info to me that's what a scammer is to me
CanadaGirl
September 15, 2020
Anyone meet a guy named Liam Oliver on Scrabble? Super cute. Works in insurance. Mexican but lives in California. HRM degree from Spain. Very well spoken. Weeks of conversation only to have him claim Grandma was sick and needed surgery. Got pretty demanding for money. Shut him down there.
Fharper1964
September 16, 2020
Has anyone had contact with Dora Williams.
girlvictim
September 16, 2020
Can I have an opinion if I have been scammed or what? I have been exchanging message with an engineer, he said he is an contract engineer from US and planning to expand his work in Hongkong. Buying cheaper steel from China for the construction works, due to the customs new law, they need to pay first before releasing, more days in the port, the more they have to pay. If he wired the money here in Hongkong, it would take about 4 to 5 days. That is why he said I was his last resort, and I need to pay first to his agent. Then, he assured me first by wiring the money to my bank account, but it will arrive 6 days later. I have already transfer the money to his agent now. Do you guys think it is a scam or not?
Sonia M.
September 22, 2020

In reply to by girlvictim

SCAMMER, DONT SEND MONEY. SAME HISTORY, I HAVE LIVED.
kl
September 27, 2020

In reply to by girlvictim

what is his name ? I think we might be meet the same scammer.
Peaches
October 15, 2020

In reply to by girlvictim

It is a scam. I work in Customs and this is not a normal practice.
CanadaGirl
September 16, 2020
Anyone talk to a guy named Liam Oliver. Mexican that lives in California. Well spoken. Claims to work in insurance. Spent weeks talking to him only to have him claim he had a sick grandma and needed money. I didn't send him anything.
EmmGee
September 16, 2020
I am worried about a gal friend of mine. She thinks this guy , supposedly in the military out at San Diego (not Navy), is going to give her a free house. He keeps putting off meeting her. 1) Got in trouble in the military and was admonished. 2) No planes from North Carolina (once again, NOT NAVY) were not flying, due to COVID, 3) Got dizzy and was in the hospital. Was not cleared to travel by the doctor. This gal met this catfisher on POF or MeetMe. I did a reverse search, only to find the catfisher's pics on gay "love" sites (with dirty words with them). She is in deep denial. I also saw the guy's picture on a woman's Pinterest account. She says they are all fake accounts, yet forgot to mention the female's Pinterest. She thinks he is going to give her a free house this weekend, after they meet and drive truck to San Diego. She is going to her storage unit on Saturday. Wonder what excuse will be used for this weekend's not moving. No idea where her money is going, in the meantime. She is not talking about that at all. She just wants away from NW Ohio and wants the free house.
Mromito
September 16, 2020
Please answer me anyone hear of James Grimmett claims to be in Yemen orthopedic surgeon I contacted real person to let them know ... their in Turkey the real one now he’s monitoring his accounts and making real videos of himself on a blue checked account showing where he really is James Grimmettt is mean and awful when you refuse I didn’t know they can get your locstion
Mromito
September 16, 2020
I also have another one Coca K talked since Feb He found me on Yelp Calls me talks like a. Angel He uses Thomas Languarrd Maddean not spelled right pictures.. he told me he was going to tell me who he really is ... never asked for money now yesterday a steam card story talks on what’s app but voice cards Said forget it just take care of yourself geez I’m so stupid
Christa
September 16, 2020
Does anyone know of a John Grage. claims he is 6' tall with white hair and a gostee real handsome claims to be in qatar and needs money to come home. message me if you know of someone like that we exchange photos
Scamming My Mother
September 16, 2020
Anyone talk to GUNTER MULLER? Says he has a house in California and is working on an oil rig in Norway. Says he has a 12 year-old daughter.
nattycatt
September 16, 2020
Warning: Jeffrey Forsberg on POF beware! Handsome project manager, claims going to Turkey for his last big project before he retires. Called me every day and claims he lives in Paradise Valley/Scottsdale, says his wife passed away. Warning he has a fake bank account that looks real. He said they were going to put him in jail because of unpaid fines and to please send him $30,000. Remember, if a guy is wealthy and affluent he will not need to borrow money from you! Please anyone who has a similar story of a Swedish contractor named Jeffrey Forsberg beware!
Scanned Too
April 12, 2021

In reply to by nattycatt

He attempted to scam me last year also, as well as some other women . He went by the name Mark Forsberg then and for many years - but the bank “Stifel” is out after him for forging bank documents ! Same charming Swedish Guy - been doing this for years ! It appears he finally changed his first name cause Feds after him ! Did he have accidents on his work site and laptop and phone damaged ???????
Scammed by Bur…
September 17, 2020
On July 31 Burgan Missick texted me in www.interpals.net offering to help me learn English. He said he is an army major and presently in Kabul, Afghanistan. To be in touch he asked for my email and what’s app number. After some 7 days of communication he said he loves me and wants to marry as he found the right woman. Said his wife died 3yrs ago, parents passed away, no kids, born on March 23, 1971 Dallas, Texas. On August 17 he wrote that his name was in the list of those who are coming back on September 18, 2020. Said he would fly to US to arrange his papers and on 22nd he will fly to meet me. On August 19th he sent message saying they were told to send half of their staff home, since he has none waiting for him at home he asked for my address to send the box to. I shared, felt I must help and it's only to get the box, so must be no problems. He also said he paid everything but there might be custom clearance tax but the sum won't be big. Same day on August 19th I got what's app message and an email from the www.i.bluwavetransit.com asking to confirm my details and later they sent a receipt that the box is sent to me. On August 20th 5:53am I got a message from the diplomatic agent Guenette Luc Frederick saying I have to pay $1,850 for custom clearance in Turkey and must do it fast as his flight is in 5hrs. I borrowed money from friends and paid the sum via Western Union on the name of Dolly Mael, Istanbul Turkey. Same day at 2pm agent Frederick informed that he arrived to my country but there is a custom clearance of $8,000 and for every day of vault protection there is a charge of $1211.10 He was pushing to do it fast not to pay those extra money. I did my best to borrow $8,000 and paid the sum on Friday August 21st. I was feeling stressed and depressed that now I owe a big sum when I myself have dependents and live in the rented flat. I shared worries wz Burgan to what he replied he has put $5,000 into the box to cover expenses of the customs clearance. He said there is a safe box with $303,000 and i can take the rest of the sum from it and cover the debt. He said he sent it to me as its for our future. He will buy a flat, a car and we will live happily together. I still was tensed, couldn't sleep and decided to check company’s receipt in Google images and found identical! Company name was different rest up to the position of the tick marks, signatures and numbers was the same. I sent msg to Burgan and the agent that I doubt if company is not fake. They both assured it was not. But on Monday I went to bank and cancelled $8,000 money transfer to the account in Malaysia which was given by the agent. Burgan was angry, said all his career is in that box, was crying in messages and begging to resend the sum. I didn't. The agent was angry too. On Friday August 28th I texted to their company that I cancel the delivery of the box asking to address the sender if any other questions. Burgan again was crying, agent was sending messages showing his anger. I asked Burgan to arrange those $1,850+$27,75 of the bank commission to which he replied he has no money and none to lend him. Since then there are no messages from him either. I’m left on my own in a tough situation to cover the money debt and to manage both ends meet. I was searching for the surname Missick and Guenette in different sites and found several profiles in several sources. Same surname, same pictures only names are different. Burgan: 1(707)404-8114 Bluewave agent: 1(914)650-8632 Bluewave company: 1(717)562-0883 https://www.facebook.com/stephen.missick https://www.facebook.com/michael.missick.547 https://www.facebook.com/steve.missick https://www.facebook.com/missick.9085 https://www.facebook.com/john.missick.1650332 https://www.facebook.com/jacob.missick.14 https://ok.ru/profile/577382963303 https://ok.ru/profile/584909943717 https://ok.ru/profile/574070351714 https://vk.com/missickscott
Scarredangel
September 17, 2020
Watch out for an instagram user named isabella sophia her pic is of a nice looking older woman. She will message saying she is a ceo of instagram and that mark zuckerberg from facebook and the guy that founded instagram have chosen me at random to win 500,000.00. Thank god im not naieve and didnt fall for this but my heart hurts knowing there are people out there so desperate to get out of financial hardships that they would fall for it. Please be careful if this woman messages you. I am currently trying to catch her in her lies and will be posting about it on reddit as well once i have enough against this woman. Be careful out there all. Scammers are everywhere and they will play on your heart to try to string you in. Dont let them dont ever accept or send any information to anyone without getting legal documents and having a lawyer look them over. If anyone won that sum of money there would be legal documents that go along with it. Stay safe everyone.
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September 17, 2020
Report any online crime now. A lot of people have been hurt on the internet and kept mute about it, if you don't report the crime, how do we deal with that crime? and put an end to it. Feel free to report today to the email provided below. Accessibility eRulemaking Freedom of Information/Privacy Act Legal Notices Legal Policies and Disclaimers Links Privacy Policy USA.gov White House No FEAR Act FBI.gov is an official site of the U.S. government, U.S. Department of Justice Email:    fbi.cyberservices@cyberservices.com
Saraniya
September 18, 2020
She have my kitsune for freee i need it back i told give back then she told no its my legendry plzz i need it back cries i gave my neon fly ride dog for the kit sune now she stolen it plzz i need i back
Saraniya
September 18, 2020
She have my kitsune for freee i need it back i told give back then she told no its my legendry plzz i need it back cries i gave my neon fly ride dog for the kit sune now she stolen it plzz i need i back
Saraniya
September 18, 2020
She have my kitsune for freee i need it back i told give back she told no plzz i need it back im crying
Saraniya
September 18, 2020
She have my kitsune by mistakly i accent it i goth nothing i told her to give me back plzz she told no way plzz i need back
Lele
September 18, 2020
I am talking to a Terry Blacksmith who claims to be from LA but currently works as a contractor for Emaar properties in Dubai. The pics he send me shows a muscular guy in his late 30s with tattoos. Really nice looking guy. So far I couldnt find out what exactly he wants from me. I tried image search to find the real guy in the pics but no luck.
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September 18, 2020
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September 18, 2020
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September 18, 2020
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Hairdresser th…
September 18, 2020
George Scott powell. From Arlington, tx. Met him while he was in navy. They didn’t let him reinlist, but not dishonorable discharge. Has a criminal record. Scammed me! In person! All the symptoms of a con.. alienated me from family and friends. . He stole my life, money, family. He scammed most of his friends too! DO NOT TRUST HIM! He’s probably stealing from u as ur reading!
James Petterson
September 19, 2020
Scammer is asking for money I said no I want to send a birthday card but he said no he wanted a eBay card I said no he is a scammer
James Petterson
September 19, 2020
Scammer is asking for money I said no I want to send a birthday card but he said no he wanted a eBay card I said no he is a scammer never asked for money for two weeks he said he works in Calf construction for 28 yrs lives in a motel and needs money for his day back in Ohio lol I said well you have money you work doesn’t have enough he said I need to put some on a eBay card I said no way
frankeesma
September 19, 2020
I have been talking for almost 2 months with a guy named Glenn Darrel...He is supposedly in Idaho working at a cobalt mine as a general contractor geologist. Is supervising with a team at the mine..He seems very knowledgeable about cobalt and the mining situation,..at one point there was an equipment breakdown and he assisted in fixing it...He mentioned the part and I looked it up...it is actually used in cobalt mining...He really seems liget actually..there is just a couple things that bother me and i am not sure if its just because I am aware of all things that scammers do. I could really like this guy as we seem to have a good connection...he talks normal, meaning his responses are very American, gets the humor from here..we talk every night and I still am not sure what to think...he does say we will meet when this job is over..who knows yet..he lost his son in a way he wont talk about, does not talk of family here except a 12yr old grandaughter...he is divorced due to situation of loss of son. Has a house in Philladelphia, drives a red Toyota Tundra, etc. We have talked of all aspects of life and we have very similar humor. The first real thing that sent the red flag was at the beginning of Sept. he wished me a Happy New Month....I checked on that and it is a typical greeting in Nigeria...He may have just heard that and liked the greeting or he is from there. I just don't know what to think. I am still being very cautious and hope I am wrong about some of my feelings that could raise little red flags. Anyone meet a similar guy with similar job etc..."