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Image of cupid and heartNot everyone using online dating sites is looking for love. Scammers create fake online profiles using photos of other people — even stolen pictures of real military personnel. They profess their love quickly. And they tug at your heartstrings with made-up stories about how they need money — for emergencies, hospital bills, or travel. Why all of the tricks? They’re looking to steal your money.

As if all that isn’t bad enough, romance scammers are now involving their victims in online bank fraud. Here’s how it works: The scammers set up dating profiles to meet potential victims. After they form a “relationship,” they come up with reasons to ask their love interest to set up a new bank account. The scammers transfer stolen money into the new account, and then tell their victims to wire the money out of the country. Victims think they’re just helping out their soulmate, never realizing they’re aiding and abetting a crime.  

Here are some warning signs that an online love interest might be a fake. They ask you to:

  • chat off of the dating site immediately, using personal email, text, or phone
  • wire money using Western Union or Money Gram
  • set up a new bank account

Did you know you can do an image search of your love interest’s photo in your favorite search engine? If you do an image search and the person’s photo appears under several different names, you’re probably dealing with a scammer. And if the person’s online profile disappears a few days after they meet you, that’s another tip-off.

Here’s the real deal: Don’t send money to someone you met online — for any reason. If your online sweetheart asks for money, you can expect it’s a scam.

Unfortunately, online dating scams are all too common. There may be tens of thousands of victims, and only a small fraction report it to the FTC. If this happens to you, please report it at ReportFraud.ftc.gov.

A woman looking at a dating site on her computer.

Princess4cme
July 20, 2019
Avoid Viktor Fredy or Viktor Rodriguez. Scammers.....asked me to buy cards for him.
Soosoo
July 20, 2019
Elliot Williams is being used as a FB messenger scam to offer big payouts. They pretend to be FB contact and and send a friend request then ask if you have heard the good news... I have had 4 of these in the last month. They will give you a link and offer to talk you through it. Grrr
Olivia T
July 20, 2019
Has anyone had contact from a man supposedly named Charles James or Raymond Parker? My 80 years old friend has sent him close to $100,000 over the past several months. He says he's in the furniture business and is presently in London. Supposedly lives in Florida but has been in "London" several months. He has sent her pictures. In one he is holding a sign that says XXXX I love you. I have x'd out her name.
kohlie
July 20, 2019
how do i know if i'm really speaking to a real James Williams? there's this guy who added me on instagram claiming the name of James Williams, and he just signed a contract to work in Syria but originally he's from California. He said that he is an Orthopedic Surgeon there, he lost his parents years ago but he has a brother living in Germany. he has sent me couple of pictures and confessing his love for me. can anyone help me find out if i get scammed or if i am really talking to a real James Williams?
Totally fake
July 26, 2019

In reply to by kohlie

He is a scammer. James Belotti told me the same exact story.
FosterRocks
July 20, 2019
Met a guy on POF states he's a master sargeant in the military..We chatted a bit. Then he wanted me to sign up for hang out...messages ...then he loves me...then he needs steam cards...but the thing was he was sending money to my credit cards for me to get them for him...So I would buy then give him the codes.. But then paymnts he made started returning for all 3 credit cards so Im like pissed..telling him to send me money...but of course they got ambushed n his ID n wallet was lost in Turkey...So Um now waited on proof of who he is n to see if this was a scam.. I am down over $900 + return fees...
Erin
July 20, 2019
My father in law who’s 75 thinks he’s in a relationship with a young lady (like 30) who just inherited a large estate in Turkey. She wants him to become the administrator of this Estate... but the application would cost him 30k in legal fees & she promises him a portion of the estate when it’s finalized. He only talks to her online because she’s deaf. He won’t listen to us that this is an obvious scam. We don’t know how to get him to wake up!
Completely annoyed
July 21, 2019
It seems to me.that these guys simply.pick up where they left off or hop onto the next site n are still.very much A problem. I spoke to name albert Dazzy on hangouts.claimed to be from Mass and widower with.son 13 MORGAN AND GOT STUCK AND IEXTREMLY INSULTING WHEN I DID NOT SEND HIM MONEY AND SENT HIM A LINK ABOUT military romance scams
Slightlyused
July 22, 2019
Same story army sergeant. Wife died car accident 4 yrs ago. 9 yr old daughter. Frozen bank acct. Wanted me to open new acc. So he could put money in it. Part would go to supposed daughter he would give me a part as well. I didn't open acct. He was angry for a bit then got over it. Says he got artifacts stashed some where in Damascus where he's stationed. Works in office or on patrol. Always requesting I tune cards so he could relax and watch movies or listen to music. The last I tune card he requested is so he could down load something for his commander. Red flag.. Didn't send it. He's angry. Says he doesn't like liars. I told him same thing. Calls me his queen, his wife. Can't wait till he's home so we can be together he says. Caught him I think one time texting I think someone else and I got the the text because didn't have anything to do with what we were talking about. Lol these guys must be texting alot of women at the same time!!lol said he grew up in Australia.
neuenssk
July 22, 2019
I too have been scammed by Joseph Jones on Silver Singles site. He claims he is a self employed pipeline engineer. Lost his wife from cancer and said that he still owned home in ND which was a lie. Only emailed for 4 days and really poured on the sweet stuff. We were planning on meeting next week after he returns from a 2 week business trip from Houston. He did give me his tel # and I gave him mine. I got smart and checked him out before he called me the next morning. Told him I did this and asked him about his home in ND refused to answer me, and hung up on me! Ladies beware of this creature.
BlueBlue
July 22, 2019
I met a guy on a dating app, I believe he is a love scammer, he is living in my hometown country, 1st he love me so quick and offer me to go back to live with him and he will take care of me. He didn’t ask me any money transfer until one day he told me his company giving foreign client to invest and he got the offer. So he said he want to send me money and I use his money to invest to his company as a foreign client. In the beginning, I do not want to do that and he keep saying he gave 100k deposit to hold the spot. If this doesn’t happen the 100k will be donated. After all the conversation, he said all he needs is the bank account that he can wire transfer money to me. The maximum invest is 70k. So end up I gave him my no money bank account, I wait and see he will be transfer. After a day or so, he asked is the transfer here yet? I said not yet and in USA usually it take 3-5 days to complete. He said I transfer as urgent that will be here very soon. So the money is not arrive and his company is rushing to open investment, until this time he still not asking me money to help yet. But in that moment my heart is rushing too that I offer I only have 10k, so he said let him deal with his boss just put 10k for now to hold the spot then his 100k deposit can be release. As I think, ok 10k is not that a lot, if he is scammer then I will accept it because that is my own fault. So 1st I sent $5000 western union to “his company account” as he said. And I am still curious, I told him I can’t send the 2nd $5000 because I don’t have money to pay my bills for this rush. And then he said doesn’t have much cash left too, all his money put down this this investment. But he will send me $2500 for his last cash by next day. But I need to send 2nd $5000 to company as long as hold the spot. So I trusted him again. I sent the 2nd $5000. After all, he did not send me $2500 but he still keep talking to me that the wire transfer 70k is bounce back, he will wire smaller amount again when he get back. I told him that is it, do not talk to me anymore, you got what you want already. But he still sending message to me. He told me the 10k investment is getting profit, company will call you verify soon. I did not reply. I do not know why he still message since he got money already. Any thought?
Peter K
August 04, 2019

In reply to by BlueBlue

A similar thing happened to one of my friends. This guy knows VERY well that he can milk more money from you..that is why he keeps writing to you. Block him or you will regret it
Mary
July 22, 2019
Anyone hear of John Daines, 51 y.o., wife died of kidney problems 3 years ago, has 15 y.o. son/Daniel, and is from Apex, NC?
catfish_researcher
July 28, 2019

In reply to by Mary

A cursory search of several sources shows nobody with that name/age in North Carolina.
bunnyyluv
July 23, 2019
I have met this guy name Dennis from Hollywood Fl. He said that he has a contracting business. We talked for a week on tagged and then he asked me to get off tagged and go to whatapp. Then he had to go to Mexico for a job . He gets over there and tell me that his secretary left and went back to India to get marry and she did all of his finance for his business. He wanted me to take over his finance and pay diffrent people and his workers. He now need supplies to finish his project in Mexico and he keep asking me to open a IRA so he can send money so that he get paid to get supplies from the us. He said he will be sending 450,000 to put in the IRA account with me opening it. I need to know if anyone have had any contact with him. He call himself Dennis Walcott and his mother is from Pupua New Guinea and as soon as he get finish with his job is taking me there to see his family. I need to know if he is a scammer.
Newby
July 23, 2019
A man I have not met except online is in Dubai. He wants me to open a checking account for him so the bank can do a direct deposit of his money and then he will come to see me, take the money out and spend time with me. I don't like the sound of it, the way it feels and I don't like his persistense. He is putting major presure on me and the more he talks the less I like.
Lynn
July 26, 2019

In reply to by Newby

Newby can you please tell me more about this guy what is his name and does he have any children..I am talking to a man in Dubai he does push a lot on the money issue ...thank you..
Another in dubia
March 06, 2021

In reply to by Lynn

The guy I've been talking to is in Dubai. 4 months we have been communicating. Didn't take long for him to say he loved me. Said he had 2 boys. then he awk for 10.000 dollars to transport barrels of oil. I didn't send any then 5.000 still didn't send it then said he lost his wallet and has to put a hold on his account. Then wanted my bank account number and tracking number . I said no. Then wanted me to open cash app account to send me money. I said won't do. I think alot of these scammers into laundering money. He always asking for something .Apple phone cards. Account information .told him on 4 occasions no one gets my bank information. Then he wanted me to go to I think asperation to do a true identy check. Which included bank information. I asked him once if he was a romance scammer he said heck no. I said well you for the profile perfect. Very sweet guy doesn't seem to get angry when I say no. Gut feeling he's a scammer. He's suppose to live in Florida but looked the address up his name wasn't even mentioned that lives there. He sent several pictures of himself . He's even on Twitter. But those can all be stolen identity. After reading alot of these stories they sound alot like him.
Newby
July 23, 2019
Does anyone know Chris H. Wagner stationed in syria with the U.S. Army? What aboutRobert Anderson of NYC? Ricky Hall of Winchester, TN?
Jay
July 23, 2019
Hi im gay and watch out for a man named james chris rowland says hes in Iraq and asked to send money to agbodan de de rogelia in france i soped the money from western union before she got it.i looked her up todAy she changed her last name and now in the Netherlands
sistersuzy999999
July 24, 2019
Beware of Richard William and Laurent Geoffrey. If these are their real names. They are scammers. Also Tolu Adewale And Nwokenta. Marc Antony. These four are still burning from the money they scammed from me 6 years ago.
Gorigaln't use…
July 24, 2019
Have you had any men by the name of Pattrick Jones working in Malysia as a contract job for Sinohydro company? He claims to live in Jackson, Wyoming
Cbk
July 24, 2019
Has anyone heard of Micheal David Lewis? Engineer from Houston, widowed..late wife's name was Michelle, daughter Karen in Canada whose engaged to David Maxwell. I met him on Plenty of fish. He suddenly had to go to Malaysia on business. I think he is a scammer.
Poetically Prophetic
July 25, 2019
So I decided to go on a dating site again against all better judgement lol Anyway this man Allen who claimed to be a military personnel me and him started chatting. First thing that was a red flag his pictures looked a little too perfect, but can't always judge a book by the cover started chatting, gave me this whole spiel about being divorced and single dad being in the military. So as we're chatting he tells me he can't send pictures and such on the WhatsApp app because he is in Syria on a mission and didn't want it to get out to the Press, and had to be careful of his location because of the enemy. I was like okay this is definitely not military personnel . I have never been in the military but if I was in a undercover Mission so to speak I would not tell a perfect stranger about it. So go with your gut instincts of course I blocked him and reported him. This literally just happened today. So ridiculous so what did I get taught I have common sense I have to start using it at the beginning and not wait. ...
sick of scams
July 25, 2019
Is anyone talking to a Rob Travels? Since I met him he has changed names in numerous occassions. Is from NYC, has a travel company and a podcast. Says he loves me and will marry me. It is too soon. Company names given so far: TravelandLifestyle podcast Passionquest12345 , Passionquest 97 , Influence Lifestyle. Something is off. When I search him this website comes up but the page is wrong. Claims he is a rich magnate that made his millions in the stock world and works for different hotels. Something is very off and with the name changes (?)
jdll
July 25, 2019
Need help and advice. My aunty is being scammed by who she knows as Ted Luke Allen, befriended him on facebook, and it his profile quickly was deleted. I beleive they talk on Google hangouts. I have been hearing stories through about it, it started in August 2018. She believes he has a daughter, he is on a secret mission, wants to move to Australia after deployment and marry her an build ger a house. At christmas time she sent him i tunes cards believing he needed it for a gift for his daughter. This Allen has multiple accounts on facebook but uses the same photos for each profile. Recently 600 dollars of itunes cards was found in my auntys room, and they had already been used, this was happening by her sending photos of the barcode and sending it to him. on avaerage she send hom 200/300 dollars a week and has her believing that he wants too come to marry her and build her a house. Even that bad she has him as her screensaver on her phone. There is no getting through to her, she is always out of money always ringing my grandmother needing money for apparent rent, petrol, groceries. she has a job and her job would cover these expenses if she wasnt sending this scammer money. My poor granmother is 85 and cant bring her self to say no to my aunty. In a scope of 9 months my grandmother has sent my aunty 12 000 dollars. Believe me we ahve said many times to her do not send her money. But its the excuses that comes from my aunty that my grandma believes she needs the money , Like rent, her daughter stealing it etc. Is there any way to report this allen scammer , by reading all these articles, many people have fallen a victim, very cunning by the sounds how this scammer works their words.
Becky
July 25, 2019
I got contacted from LinkedIn from a man name Roberto. Supposedly he’s in the army. Wife died . 14 year old daughter. Talking a lot about how fate brought us together… On LinkedIn! He says he’s in Afghanistan. He is apparently quite smitten with me he says! I can’t wait for his punchline to send him money. Girlfriends, be careful out there!
Skrick
July 26, 2019
Hi has anyone been contacted by a sandra king in Pennsylvania she asked me for a iPhone 7 plus claims she has 7 year old son shes waiting for an inheritance calls me but I cant call her I know it's a scam something isn't right claims shell come see me but wants money for new clothes for her and son
Victim 312
July 26, 2019
Is anyone talking to a sargent meyer robin in Kabul ?
Victim 312
July 26, 2019
I met him on Facebook. Now we talk on Viber every day &I have fallen in love with him I have a military picture of him
Don't Do It
August 04, 2019

In reply to by Victim 312

RUN!!! If he is truly the "one" tell him you will pick up where you left off when he gets home. I don't know him but I am telling you its a scam.
susarie
July 26, 2019
My former guy- I knew 22 years ago and that made him- fine- by my definition. However this guy lied to me for years about the fact that he was homeless before I met him. He was successful in the past doing things for as he said doing herbs distillery like echinacea etc. ( he said he had bonds.. but they never appeared- he lived with me for 8 years often writing and doing tech stuff. He had only one job that paid anything for a year but didn’t get renewed I think from through vetting. He left me with over 15000 in debt and never heard from him again. He is a grifter and is not safe to be around. He goes by Liam or Will.
damodar
July 26, 2019
Thanks for yr cumment guys. I MET SOME GIRL NAMED AMANDA WEBER ON KIK. SHE TOLD SHE IS IN MISSION IN NIGERIA. SHE BECAME FRIEND WITH ME. TOLD ME SHE HAS NO MONEY. ASKED MONEY THROUGH MONEYGRAM AND WESTERN UNION. I CHECKED NOT POSSIBLE. INFORMED HER . I ASKED TO DOWNLOAD GOOGLE PAY. SHE WAS UNABLE TO INSTALL. SHE ASKED ME TO PURCHASE ITUNE GIFT CARD. I SAW ONE WEBSITE FOR OFFER. IT WAS ASKING ITUNES ACCOUNT WITH US ADDRESS FOR PURCHASE. I ASKED ITUNES ACCOUNT. SHE TOLD ME TO PURCHASE GOOGLE PAY CARD ELSE. I ASKED ACCOUNT NO. AGAIN. SHE HAVE NO REPLY.
ladymdjtren
July 26, 2019
Have anyone ever been asked for money or for bank account info to transfer money to your account from Nigeria.. Guy's name is Alex Ekubo nollywood actor
MaryItunesscam…
July 27, 2019
Be aware of POF and several men. One is from Denmark so he says, he says he is 60 and lives in Colo. He is not in Colo, his photo's are all over the internet, he likes young boys and the beach, He goes by several names David, Lucas, Spencer. He uses a VOIP line so he thinks he cannot be detected. He is on POF and the user name is davespa. Be aware of this man. He speaks a broken language, and says he is an architect. Look out, he also says things like most scammers,, wanting marriage before meeting. All the typical scams of meeting online.
MaryItunesscam…
July 27, 2019
POF Scammer, user name explictsmile, He is all over the internet and is shown, photo as a dating or more scammer! He contacted me once and I saw him on the registry. He is still active on POF,, He says he lives in Denver and is 59 yr. Look him up on the internet under scammers
yogi
July 27, 2019
Can we post photos?
Buttons
August 06, 2019

In reply to by yogi

I'm not sure, but I wish we could.
DivaDi
July 27, 2019
I have a friend who has been in contact with an Andrew .. From the UK but lives in Las Vegas and makes clocks .. Has had her in tears when he had asked for money and she has said no ( I hope this is still the case). Has sent him a iTunes card ( well photo of the details of it) as he was unwell and wanted some new music to listen too Has sent her a photo of a plane ticket that shows he is coming over to Australia next Saturday.. but we all know how easy it is to make a fake ticket online !! Has anyone come across this guy ? When her daughter spoke to him one night he didn’t sound English and he only chats on What’s app
Story
July 28, 2019
Ladies... these men may not be the same ones even though their story matches. They are trained in scamming, they all use similar stories. Military, widowed, singlefather and so on.
Bloggers 17
July 28, 2019
Hello I have been scammed twice, must have mug written on my profiles the first one being in the name of Dean Ohm widow daughter Ellie at boarding school and just told me know how his wife died and his name he contacted me through Instagram then hangout then went to a different chat program, when I first heard his voice I thought it was a little weirded as he sound American. I have been onto the bank that are trying to get it back. Then a week later another guy called Walter Christopher French said it wife and 2 daughters died then all of a sudden when I questioned him about the picture as I did my homework and checked his photo out which is someone else. He say the daughter he sent of was actually another daughter from a different woman, wow story change. So blew him away as I told him he was a scammer and he laughed in my face so you won't getting me in this one. Anyone else heard of these name and can share any images to see if we have the same
Denise
July 28, 2019
I've met 2 of these guys through FB and chats on Hangouts. Fit all the criteria I have read on here. One claims to be a Doctor in Syria for the military. Claims he is from Ohio. Widower and has a daughter in boarding school. Another is in Afghanistan on a peacekeeping mission. Also has a daughter and is cared for by a nanny in the states. Neither has asked for money and they won't ever get any from me. They both speak English well, but every now and then they say something that isn't quite right from someone raised in America. One said he wished he could lick me. WTH ! Who talks like that. I will not be scammed, but I have to admit I do play along.
the swedish la…
July 29, 2019
I have meet Three on Instagram. Greg Underwood i know now he real namne is David and he is not on Instagram some one stolen his face. Taylor Jackson lost his wife and his doughter in a carcrash and now his only son is in coma in Turky. he asked for 10 000dollar. i blocked him and a general i cant find anywere he has 4 stars and officers with 4 stars is in a list in Wiki.
Roseflower
July 29, 2019
I have just deleted the Google Hangouts app as I was talking to a Turkish guy who worked on a rig for three months, wife deceased, young son, no friends, loved me after two weeks, wanted to get married because I was his world, working so hard to get home to be with me etc etc. Have had a gut feeling from the off that this was a scam as a good looking guy (probably stolen photos) too good to be true. He then asked me to go into his account yes gave me his bank details to check his balance loads of money in there and then wanted me to buy materials for the rig as he couldn't get connection on rig. Well of course I didn't and that's when he turned nasty when he realised I wasn't gonna do it - definitely fake account then would have asked me to buy whatever and he would see me right as he has loads of money when I refused and said no way was I going to do anything with his account he turned verbally nasty swearing badly - yes because he had been rumbled. His name is Josh Elvan Moore ( not Turkish I know) first dodgy gut feeling !!!! I hope that this helps someone else don't get involved he is a scammer.
Buttons
August 06, 2019

In reply to by Roseflower

I think this is the guy I'm having trouble with now. I called him a scammer and he got very upset. He inboxes me on IG had a pic of him and his son. He has no family, wife passed, son in boarding school. Works on Oil Rig in Turkey. Now he's on another oil rig. The Turks have his luggage with his money. Wanted me to pay $950 for shipping and handling. Goes by the name "James Raphel". I didn't send any money to said Co.
Buzz
February 29, 2020

In reply to by Buttons

I’m talking to one now. He msg me on insta. Said he follow the same group and my pic was recommended to him by insta and he was attracted to me. Pics of him was very muscular handsome man with tattoo on upper left arm/bottom right leg. Also has a workout vid about 16 seconds long. Goes by the name of Tyler. This guy will tells me the sweetest words.. a lot of poems which he says he picked out the ones he thought most to describe his feelings for me. He had been married for 5 years divorced for 4 years because his wife cheated on him first time with some man, second time with his best mate. He has a 6 year old daughter who lives with his aunt who is disabled in a wheelchair. As he is away in Germany doing construction engineer. But just a contract every so often to work away so will soon be back home to Belfast mid April where he says we will meet. Also sent pics of him and his dog as well as daughter and aunt. Also he has no parents as both were killed by his bad family for property. And he has no siblings. His father was from England his mother Lebanese. I caught him out with his dogs name where he said that’s because his dog has two names..and out of all the names possible I got one of the two names right haha.. yeah right. I knew something was fishy. From first talking he was sweet talking/how much he’s so happy to find an angel from heaven and how he cant believe his luck etc. Now as it’s his so called bday tomorrow 1st March he says his happy it would make him to receive gift from his love.. when asked what gift..he replied.. Amazon gift card.. but he would prefer Steam but if not Amazon or iTunes will be fine. And how £100-200 upwards would be perfect from his special love.
the swedish la…
July 29, 2019
okej Girls. on Instagram. jacksonlovexxx he call himself Taylor Jackson his wife and doughter died in a carcrash and now is his son in emergecy care in turky. He is not real. He is a dentist and his face have been stolen. 2. Greg Underwodd is an officer in Syria. well his real name is David and he is not in syria he have a pension and have his face stolen. 3. Paul Anderson as middelname he told me is Barber. He has a doughter karen but the pictuer of karen is a photo of a Another girl . He have a lot of alias but the real man is not to find on internet. If you want to check a foto wrigt sceck foto in the sersching field at goole. a blue link click on it and Place the foto tou wunder about and enter. google are now comming up with fotos and perhaps your friend are there.
A c
July 29, 2019
So I get this email in my spam from Mr David Brown, Homeland Security saying that I have two military boxes for me and at a reduced price he will attend me. Well the email is from Japan, his email contact is Aol and in the Source portion of the email he is listed with a contact of Yahoo. So here we have a poorly written email from Mr David Brown Homeland Security, ip address out of of Japan, phone: Aims Ia, and two different contact emails. Email will be fwd to FTC.
Vv
July 29, 2019
I came across two idiots who wanted me to see the face, one is from Thailand and the other military, the first says he is a businessman of a cereal company in Thailand and spends it traveling, is very skillful with the photo montage, the guy printed a passage saying that he would come to see me and never happened and also sent me a supposed capture of his passport the bloody shameless to check his identity, all false, the second I discovered him to lis 5 minutes of talking to the best said her, a woman posing as a military jhonatan libby, very careful!Don't be so illusory, real love is not behind an online chat is with the person in front of us and their acts. Be careful with whom we decide to share our lives.