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Looking to start a new relationship? For some, that may mean meeting a new love interest online. Word to the wise: sometimes it’s best to lead with your head and not your heart.

Millions of Americans use dating sites, social networking sites, and chat rooms to meet people. And many forge successful relationships. But scammers also use these sites to meet potential victims. They create fake profiles to build online relationships, and eventually convince people to send money in the name of love.

The Federal Trade Commission receives thousands of reports each year about romance scammers who create fake online relationships only to steal their victims’ money.

Unfortunately, an online love interest who asks for money is almost certainly a scam artist.

The FTC’s new infographic, developed with the American Bankers Association Foundation, lists common signs of online dating scams and what to do if someone you meet online asks you for money.

Below are some tips to identify a real romance versus a scammer cruising for a target.

Online Dating Scams. Has an online love interest asked you for money? That's a scam. Scammers know millions of people use online dating sites. They are there, too, hiding behind fake profiles. Signs of a scam: Professes love quickly. Claims to be from the U.S., but is overseas for business or military service. Asks for money, and lures you off the dating site. Claims to need money — for emergencies, hospital bills, or travel. Plans to visit, but can’t because of an emergency. $220 million lost in 2016. $56 million lost in 2012. Reports to the FBI tripled over 5 years (4,476 reports in 2012; 14,546 reports in 2016) What to do: Slow down — and talk to someone you trust. Don’t let a scammer rush you. Never wire money, put money on a gift or cash reload card, or send cash to an online love interest. You won’t get it back. Contact your bank right away if you think you’ve sent money to a scammer. Report your experience to: • The online dating site • Federal Trade Commission: ftc.gov/complaint • Federal Bureau of Investigation: ic3.gov. Learn more at ftc.gov/imposters and aba.com/engagement

Please share this information with others. Victims may be embarrassed to talk about their experiences, but you can help. A simple phone call, email or text, saying “Look what I just found” and sharing this information may make a difference in someone else’s life.

Lonely Lon
November 16, 2020
Has anyone ever heard of Malloy Amanda Dweck. She said she is getting inheritance and she needs me to be the first beneficiary to get her money. But I met her and she had given me money
vak
November 16, 2020
I met this man who started off going by the name of Mark James. He is a widower , who was so in love with his wife Julie, they have a daughter Mitchell. He is on an oil rig in the Gulf of Alaska. He has sent me many gifts, one that had a different name than his. So names don't add up and he isn't answering me when I ask him.. He has not asked me for anything, but we have only been talking for a few weeks. I would love to exchange pictures. IS there a way?
Hannah
November 16, 2020
Hi, I have been talking for a long time to a guy called Bjorn Raulin from Finland, living in England. Widow (why are they all widowers?) working in Malaysia, suddenly the bank has stopped his account and he has raised some money but needs 10 thousand pounds more. If anyone has corresponded with him, I have photos to share.
Jessica
November 23, 2020

In reply to by Hannah

I too have been talking with Bjorn Raulin from Finland. Lives in Warrington but working in Malaysia. Chatting for sometime sent me details of his flight to collect him from airport. Then told me his bank account had been hacked in Turkey and he needed 10K.
pest controller
December 23, 2020

In reply to by Jessica

I was talking with man from Finland, who now on contract in South Africa, but one of his project proposal was in Malaysia too. He is 63 years old, widowed.
pest controller
December 23, 2020

In reply to by Hannah

I have feeling that it could be same man only he is pretending that he is in Cape Town now.
Benny2020!
November 16, 2020
HaS anybody come across a cath curry From springfield missouri usa She dm ed me on Instagram got talking after a bit we were talking a lot asked me to join her on hangouts I did all seemed fine she startered to ask am I single kids do I own a house what do I do were do I live etc so we talked for about a week then came can I help her out she needed $500 For medical supplies and told me alabout her illness? I said no then next 3 says kept asking me i told her I was broke she asked me for$350 then $200then $50 Bare in mind I live in the UK and she was on vacation in uk I still said no so she said can I get a credit card to pay or sell something I own as she was ill 1st we don't charge for medical help in uk And with covid they wouldn't probably take her in not she is trying to guilt trip me I just like to know if anybody has come across this blonde 30 yr old who has fallen for a 49 brit who needs help walking Also she hasn't realised but she tried this over a year ago on me same girl same talk last time very racy pictures as well Thanks
Close Call
November 18, 2020
Beware of a man named Tony Briggssen who I met on a dating site. Asked me to "do a favor" for him by buyng a $25 iTunes gift card for his grandsons birthday. (He claimed to be in a meeting all day and couldn't go get it himself) Said he would give me the money when we met for our first date. But he wanted me to scratch the card and give him the code on the back. I repeatedly refused and eventually won out.
blahblahnah
November 19, 2020
Met a guy on the weight loss app "Loseit". His name is Dy Not on there which is short for Dylan Newton. His story: 45, lost his wife to cancer, two kids, deployed Colonel in the US Army. On his last deployment before he retires in 2021. Stationed in Iraq. His kids are named Esther 13, and Alex 10. They are in boarding school. He didn't get the opportunity to ask me for money because I sent his pic to my family who works in Homeland security and was warned of "Romance Scams" and to not engage. I was already two weeks into conversation on WhatsApp andI called him out and blocked him. He contacted me on the Loseit! app saying I was wrong and that he would NEVER ask me for money so I unblocked him on WhatsApp and said that's fine but I would never be dumb enough to send $ to him. He said ok and we agreed to be friends. the next morning, I woke up with 10 fraudulent purchases on my bank account. I never gave him anything accept the basic stuff you say when you're getting to know someone. name, age, state i live in and I was somehow hacked!!! Be careful!! I wish I just listened to my uncle and disengaged. I have no idea how he ( or they) did it or if it was just one HUGE COINCIDENCE!! LESSON LEARNED.
RA1Z0R
November 19, 2020
A woman named Sandra Gibbish friended me on Facebook professing her love. It hasn't been a week and she asked for a Amazon card for food for her daughter. I was suspicious but I had only 40 bucks Canadian so why not. She says she lives in Tennessee. 15000 in debt to her police officer landlord and has 2.5 mil inheritance but only by her fiance as per her deceased father s wish can claim it. So she want me to have 2 locked boxes shipping from UK and me to pay to get it here. Inside is 2.5 mil and other assets. She says she is 1 year divorced from a husband named Michael Calderon. Anybody hear anything familiar?
Petercocktail
November 23, 2020
Online oil driller in gulf of mexico Divorce 1 son And nanny watching him He needs money to set up a retirement before leave there Cell phone. For guys before. He can leave He wants 700.00 Omg this so ridiculous He said he doesn't get paid till his contract is done He said he will pay me back. Nah don't believe it. They say the right words i bet they learn it from book.
MTexas
November 24, 2020
Has any one heard of David Braun? He is in Ireland on offshore. Has a daughter in private school. Wife died 5 years ago! He asked money for his daughters private school?
RTexas
January 29, 2022

In reply to by MTexas

Yes I have. He has asked for money because his daughter had to got to hospital. he also asked for money because he needed medication while is on working on the rig checked his emails accounts and the say the are valid. He is a sweet talker and will say anything to get money. He also says he is from Sana Ana California. He targets older women esp from Texas. He sent me a picture do you want it
RTexas
January 29, 2022

In reply to by MTexas

Yes I have heard of David Braun he contacted me on Facebook. He has asked for money because his daughter had to got to hospital. he also asked for money because he needed to get is retirement straightened out also for medication while is on working on the rig checked his emails accounts and the say the are valid. He is a sweet talker and will say anything to get money. He also says he is from Sana Ana California. He targets older women esp from Texas. He sent me a picture do you want it
RTexas
January 29, 2022

In reply to by MTexas

Yes I have heard of David Braun he contacted me on Facebook. He has asked for money because his daughter had to got to hospital. he also asked for money because he needed to get is retirement straightened out also for medication while is on working on the rig checked his emails accounts and the say the are valid. He is a sweet talker and will say anything to get money. He also says he is from Sana Ana California. He targets older women esp from Texas. He sent me a picture do you want it
MTexas
November 24, 2020
Has anyone heard of Bryan Wheary or Brian Wheary?
Mimi
November 26, 2020
Anyone heard of Thomas b
Donna
November 27, 2020
I have been talking to a man for two years. His name is David Houben. Works in the Gulf of Mexico and lives in Alabama he says. Has a 16 year old daughter named Amanda. Has any one heard of him. He says he was born in Belgium. And yes he has gotten Steam Cards and i tune cards from me.
Suss
November 28, 2020
I've been chatting to an overseas guy online who I met through Scrabble. He is an engineer, very attractive and charming. He has been seducing me with kind words, hot photos and poetry. Recently he has been asking for Google cards and money. Always a big story as to why he can't access his accounts and why he needs the money. I have said no, I don't have money and then he tries to blackmail me emotionally with comments such as if I care I would send the money, I'm all he has, he loves me etc etc.... I smell a con
Waterbreather68
November 30, 2020
Talking to a man in UK says he’s a doctor and now needs to send me his briefcase....anyone had any dealings with Colton Ramsey (Davlin Ramsey)?
Nobodysmug
November 30, 2020
Hi just found this post and so glad I did, met this guy two weeks ago on Scrabble Go, says he’s from NY but is on a rig in Scotland, he goes by the name James Williams does anyone know him, very charming has sent me photos, too good to be true.
Bunny 69
December 01, 2020
Steven jerry thomos is a scammer. He also goes by the name steven Morgan. Says that he is the captain on a cruise ship in spain.wife died in an accident about 5 years ago and his 14 year old son is in a boarding school. He fell in love with me in two days and talking about everlasting love and that we would be together forever. He then asked me how did I feel about partners in a relationship helping each other out financially. I said that it depends on the kind of relationship they had. He then ask me to get on hangout so we could talk without interruptions. I did. But when I got on Hangouts he ask me to go to Walmart and get a gift card for $400 to help him pay for some sort of subscription. I immediately deleted him because I have read these scam comments and took heed. Please beware of Steven Morgan or Steven Jerry Thomos. He is really good looking but just a scam.
Nonna cares
December 02, 2020
I was contacted on LinkedIn by a gentleman in thd mitary using the name Mike Hawkins, although his profile has Anthony Hawkins. We have been communicating for a month when he asked for help. Email sent to his commander, John Campbell to get instructions on sending money. Got instructions to send 15,000 to us soldier camp, 7,500 to another country or lastly 5,750 to Istanbul in turkey. I ssid bank refused to help, thought it was a scam . So now, send money to canadian bank.
Bb
December 02, 2020
A guy named keita Stephen McDowell claimed he was in the Navy he started asking for money and cards and I searched for him and couldn't find anything on him.. watch out for him
Too Good to be True
December 03, 2020
I have read all the comments on this site. I have a similar situation. I meet this charming man via Facebook on September 4, 2020. First day we chatted on messenger for 7 hours. It was too good to be true. Then he suggested we chat on Google Hangouts. Once we started on Hangouts I went back to Facebook and he had removed his profile/account. When I asked about it he said his account was hacked. This charming man claims to be Christian Bryant Anderson, widow with a 15 yr old son named Frank. His wife died 7 years ago from Leukemia. He was born in Frankfurt Germany where his parents still live. His son and him live in Dallas Texas. He started telling me that he loves me right away, about 2 weeks in. About another week or so he proposed to me and sent me a video of an engagement ring he so called bought for me. He sent me all kinds of love notes and told me everything I ever wanted to hear a man say to me. He sent me all kinds of pictures, even one with his son. September 17 was Frank's 15th birthday and Christian stated that he would love a Google play card. I told him that I would just wait until I see him in person to get him a gift. Then in mid October he tells me that one of the machines on the rig broke and he needed to try and get the money together for the parts. Stated that he paid for half of it but needed the rest. Asked me for $50k. I laughed at that notion. If I had that kind of money I would not be living in an apartment, I would have my own house. Then he went down to $2k. I never sent him any money, but he is still persistent. I spoke with him just this morning and he is now stating that he is stranded on the platform because he has no money for his flight home. He asked me to see if I could get a loan. Of course I am not going to do that. Its been 3 months since we started chatting and I have been having my guard up the whole time. I really thought he was legit. Yes, it's nice to have someone tell you what you want to hear, but you need to be careful. Ladies PLEASE don't ever send money to anyone you don't really know. We work too hard for what we have.
Accountability
March 31, 2021

In reply to by Too Good to be True

My guy ortho stationed in Korea widowed wife passed of leukemia sons name is also frank his accounts are frozen quickly fell in love with me son stays with nanny here in Cali I later found another profile he had now a different name Andy in Houston I met him as Jeffrey and he even sent a passport
Heart broken rdh
December 04, 2020
Was a very handsome man single no kids from maersk oil drilling rig voyager rig professed love and marriage then asked for gift cards cell phone then money
Melanne
December 26, 2020

In reply to by Heart broken rdh

May I know how old approximately he is? I just wanted to match with the guy who recently scammed my friend (working in oil rig) Thank you :-)
Heart broken
December 04, 2020
Goes by the name Dennis E Stage also Rayen Bram on the maersk oil rig voyager very handsome polished and polite asks for gift cards for repair of phone then asks fir a new phone snd when you can’t send will ask for money will process love and marriage will also ask for plane ticket money to visit
mamalisa
December 05, 2020
Has anyone been contacted by a man named Damien Scott... oil rig engineer living in Tampa but working in California?
AJ
December 06, 2020
If I could just give you a bit of advice, whenever you're chatting with someone online whom you've never met, start asking them questions. For instance, I had a woman contact me from the Philippines. She didn't start asking for money right away, but she said she was an art dealer. I said oh I love art and visit museums all the time what kind of art do you deal with? She responded sculptures, so I began to ask her from what period of art history did she enjoy the most. She said something generic, and I pressed the question asking more specific questions. She said oh you know, just art. She says I locate and purchase sculptures for clients. when I asked her what was one of the most famous pieces that she had recovered for a client, she abruptly ended the conversation. More than likely these scammers are some dudes hiding behind attractive women's photos that they got online and no absolutely nothing about the background or storyline they are pretending to be. Just start asking lots of simple innocent questions. If a person truly is in that line of work, they should be able to gratefully answer questions. The vast majority of us like to talk or brag about our work or talk about problems with our work. Rarely, when we ask others about specifics of what they do, do they end the conversation. you don't have to ask them where they work, or for whom they work, just start asking generic questions that are non-threatening to most people. Now this will always tell you if you're being scammed, but it should weed out a whole bunch of the scammers. For example, someone earlier in the comments mentioned that a person was an oil rig worker. You could ask them what specifically do they do on oil rig? When they answer it and give some generic answer, just do this: if you don't know anything about that kind of work, quickly Google it and ask about differences in drill bits or anything like that. Take 30 seconds and read the first couple entries, then go back and ask them the question about drill bits or whatever. a real oil rig worker might be a little impressed that you knew or sounded like you knew something about the industry, and they will usually spill forth information. if you keep asking questions and asking questions, and their answers become increasingly generalized or even irritated, beware!
Scammed
December 06, 2020
Has anyone been scammed by someone going by the name Ryan Jason? Claims he is a Staff Sgt in US military on Peace Keeping mission in Libya. Long story short I was scammed out of $1800 Canadian and then started asking for more. I’ve now blocked him.
Ohiogirl
December 06, 2020
I met a man on Fitbit.com. After our first chat, he wanted to move to hangouts. Then we went to WhatsApp. He says he's not on social media sites. He says his name is Jackson Lorenzo. From Houston Texas. He says he's 45. When he called me I was surprised by his accent. He has sent a good few pictured. Nice looking, graying, beautiful blue eyes, beard, about 5'9". Fit. He says he's in Qatar as a civil engineer on a private contract. At the time he was in charge of a skyscraper crew in Doha. Within a month, he has a "heart attack" and the hospital won't do the surgery without $58,000. Could I help? No. He managed to borrow from other people he said... A few weeks go by. Then his son in the US got a very rare kidney cancer. In both kidneys. The hospital in Houston wouldn't do the surgery without $30,000. Again he asked me for money. I suggested st jude's hospital. No, I didn't send money. He said he managed to get the money from friends again. His contract ended in Dec 2020. We were to meet Dec 6 in Houston. I booked my flight. 2 weeks before the meeting, he told me that he took another contract for the green tunnel job for another 6 months. He would not be coming back until later in the month. I cancelled my flight. I did send money to his housekeeper for bills. $3,000. Money order. Mailed. And moneygram. My charitable donation, I guess. He promised to pay me back. Now, they found oil in his tunnel. He is responsible for the shipment costs and needs $10,000 more than he has on him. Could I help? I told him I would not send him any more money. He made the decision to stay there. He asked at least once a week. I have tried to look him up, but he's nowhere. I'm still talking to him even though I believe he's not real.
therealtashee@…
December 09, 2020
Does anyone know about Billy Thacker? He is in Afghanistan. I have video chatted with him twice. He was the person in the photos. He stated that there was an attack on their camp base..lost wallet and phone broke. He asked for money. Also, does anyone know about John Wallace who claims to be a real estate agent in Roswell, GA. He claimed he had to visit mom in Africa but while there the car he was driving was broken into. His wallet was stolen as well as passport. I never video chatted with John because he had an excuse. I did not send any money.
Maim
December 11, 2020
He has a Twitter account named Steven stewart started to DM then moved to hangouts he said he is a navy seal from Florida ,he speaks English and Spanish,said he is deployed in Syria for 11 months . after 3 weeks he asked for money to celebrate Christmas there but I told him no then he blocked me on twitter ..
Kingfuyvipnifr
December 11, 2020
Has anyone been contacted through okcupid or pof by someone claimed to be a nurse in brooklyn ny named sandra gonzakez and that she in mission in nigeria lost wallet cant eat and that her bank would send u money or checks ro deposit than wire cause she wanna buy jewerly and the ticket to fly back and than keeps getting postpone?
scammers
December 13, 2020
I met a guy on POF dating site we changed over to Hangouts app. Goes by the name Richard Dominic. we have Ben talking for about 3 months. He lives in Chicago but now in France hes a supervisor of a construction company, we have talked on the phone many times and is truly handsome, Smooth talker, loves me already and we never met. He wants to send me a car, I have to pay clearance fee. And I googled the shipping company they have been sending me emails and tracking no. for tracking the parcel. the company is legit but the tracking no. only works on there email not the company email I truly think its a scam. the Agent wants 1500 for clearence fee. I have told Richard I have no money! So now he wants my credit card info so he can send me money. LOL
Cautious
February 25, 2021

In reply to by scammers

Was the company worldwide courier.? I called this company that apparently was being used and they don't deal in that kind of format that I was provided and the actual company sends its items to the reciever where payment then is requested, not any sooner. Also the fake web site doesn't provide contact details, where the real company does. I dug deep then sent a million pics of his different identities to him lol and all the proof I dug up...oh he was mad...but I was laughing lol
Germany scammer
December 13, 2020
Currently Micheal bly is chatting me up. Stationed in Germany as an air force soldier has a house in San Diego. No family no friends. Asked me for food and upkeep loan because his account is frozen. Hinted at difficulties from the start and claimed he loved me after 1 or 2 weeks. Asked to video chat he said yes as soon as he gets permission from commander. Questioned him about asking for money he said he would video chat right now to prove he is real.
BLUEROSE62
December 13, 2020
I have been talking to a guy who is on a oil rig in Australia, he has asked so far for 600 dollars now he is asking, which I did help. All the pictures and video of his kids are the same. Nowhere is done with his work and contract is over, he needs a ticket worth 1000.00 and I said No. He is a widow I don't know how long wife died in an explosion she was a nurse. He has 2kids and originally from California he says. Everything he talks about kids wise he has shown pictures and I have seen 4 pictures so far all the same. I need some advice, he says it's a self finance contract, and all the domestic are local. Please help me!!!!!!
A concern woman
December 15, 2020
Hi I meet 3 weeks ago this man , he said his a doctor and works for the world health organization his a single dad of a teenager that supposed to be studying in another country, he’s been showing pictures of him during medical procedures ha been such a gentleman and showing love I only know him by phone and pictures because he’s in another state he says he loves already and he even calls me now as his wife, everything is been perfect until this week he says he got called for service in another country for 3 weeks as a doctor, but now tgat he is in another country he started asking me to send money to his son because he can’t right now cause he’s in a far country right away ask for me to send almost 900$ without even asking if I’m able or if he would pay back , and after I say I can’t do that amount he said I understand, but than he keeps insisting what amount I can do I feel sad cause something it’s telling me it’s not right and I was really happy with him after a bad divorce and now this
Pi_onera
December 16, 2020
Andre Chapman, born in Italy, works on a oil rig in Alaska 5 month contract, lives in Buffalo , n. y. wife and daughter died in auto accident, parents also died, seeking his new wife, is madly in love right away...uses fancy poetic words, ignores some questions..is on Viber.
My Love
December 18, 2020
Met a very handsome guy on Words With Friends. Said he's not always on WWF, so invited me to Hangouts. He always refer to me as "my love" whenever he talks to me, and is the sweetest guy you'll ever met. He swept me off my feet, sent me beautiful photos of flowers and links to love songs on YouTube. He's widowed, wife died in childbirth. He's an independent Structural Engineer that travels often as he has contracts in Europe quite often. On the 2nd week of chatting with him, he asked for $100-$150 worth of Itunes card. Third week and asked for Google Play card. I've known him for almost 4 weeks already and now he is asking for me to wire some money to Ukraine... Hmmm..
Ladybug
December 20, 2020
I almost got burned by Hattie Harden... from West Virginia, but working on a ship as a mechanical engineer... Kept asking for money in the form of Steam and GooglePlay cards... not to mention, depositing all kinds of money into my personal checking account to purchase Bitcoins... because I kept saying no, he kept trying to make me feel like a bad person, or as he said “a heartless woman” I got out unscathed, I was smart not to believe it in the first place!
Notdoingit
December 21, 2020
Tim David. Daughter and son live with his mother while he is offshore. Their mother died of cancer. He lives in Conroe, TX. Any of this sound familiar to anyone
Dolphin girl D…
December 21, 2020
I met a guy on Facebook but then moved to hangouts he wants me to send a 500 dollar vanilla card to the UN so he can come home for vacation. What do I do
Dolphin girl D…
December 21, 2020
I’ve been talking to a guy Mark Miller he says he is an orthopedic doctor working at a hospital in Afghanistan. The picture of him he is very handsome. And says he loves me and wants to be with me but I have to send 500 dollars to the UN to get him home for vacation.
Brie
December 22, 2020
My friend says he's a contractor. Been there ten monthsnow. Engine broke no money to fix it. Men starving no food no nothing. Needs money every week .phone food medical. I told him the companies insurance would handle it. They can't hold up production like that. He said that he didn't register the contract. So what does that mean he had no insurance. A company that large would not hire a contractor without insurance. Please Tel me what he's talking re