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Image of cupid and heartNot everyone using online dating sites is looking for love. Scammers create fake online profiles using photos of other people — even stolen pictures of real military personnel. They profess their love quickly. And they tug at your heartstrings with made-up stories about how they need money — for emergencies, hospital bills, or travel. Why all of the tricks? They’re looking to steal your money.

As if all that isn’t bad enough, romance scammers are now involving their victims in online bank fraud. Here’s how it works: The scammers set up dating profiles to meet potential victims. After they form a “relationship,” they come up with reasons to ask their love interest to set up a new bank account. The scammers transfer stolen money into the new account, and then tell their victims to wire the money out of the country. Victims think they’re just helping out their soulmate, never realizing they’re aiding and abetting a crime.  

Here are some warning signs that an online love interest might be a fake. They ask you to:

  • chat off of the dating site immediately, using personal email, text, or phone
  • wire money using Western Union or Money Gram
  • set up a new bank account

Did you know you can do an image search of your love interest’s photo in your favorite search engine? If you do an image search and the person’s photo appears under several different names, you’re probably dealing with a scammer. And if the person’s online profile disappears a few days after they meet you, that’s another tip-off.

Here’s the real deal: Don’t send money to someone you met online — for any reason. If your online sweetheart asks for money, you can expect it’s a scam.

Unfortunately, online dating scams are all too common. There may be tens of thousands of victims, and only a small fraction report it to the FTC. If this happens to you, please report it at ReportFraud.ftc.gov.

A woman looking at a dating site on her computer.

FTC Staff
December 14, 2018

In reply to by tonya

I'm not sure what you are saying. Do you mean that you sent money to this man, and then changed your mind and cancelled the payment? And now he is bothering you and saying you must pay him?

Do you think he is a scammer? If he's a scammer, he is probably trying to scare you. He hopes he will scare you, and you'll send money to make him go away. But if he's a scammer, he may not really go away. If he knows you will pay, he might hang around and keep bothering you and demand more money.

You don't have to send a scammer money, and you don't have to answer his emails or texts. You can block him completely. If he really sends you legal papers, write back here again.

California girl
December 17, 2018

In reply to by Ineedhelpasap!

Hi there, If you think you are being scammed you ARE being scammed! I hate to say it but I had an uneasy feeling too! Thank goodness I only sent $50 iTunes! Honestly just cut communication and block him. You are doing your heart and wallet a big favor!
Myguyusesgmail…
December 14, 2018
I was one of hundreds of women in the Chicago, Vegas and Los Angeles areas who was scammed by a Chicago man originally from another country. He used many emails such as : sheetroyal @ gmail” or “Aurasuperb @ gmail” or “Awesome Passion @ gmail” “The champ @ gmail” or “Dreambig @ gmail”
Diipadaapa1000
December 13, 2018
I have wrote with man caller Richard Davis, we havent wrote in 2 weeks now, first i find out that his profilepicture was fake. He has stolen them from actor Jason Fox. He said he has 1 douther and his ex wife cheated on her and his divorces 5 years a ago. He sad that he loved me, send me songs and was so nice and pretended to be in love with me. When we had text 2 months he wanted money, Repo has taken his car. I ended story with him. He was fake what i thought in begining.
Lost lin
December 13, 2018
Does anyone know Dave Buford?
Ap
December 13, 2018
Anyone heard of Lukas Tom?? I think he scamming my mom
Scammed by Lukas Tom
March 27, 2019

In reply to by Ap

Yes he told me he was a trauma surgeon in Syria. He needed to get home to his two children in the US. He scammed me out of over $3000 to secure his attorney to get him home. He is still out there scamming people. Do not give him any account information.
Mad woman
December 13, 2018
Does anyone know corps_freddy1q?
Dontgetit
December 14, 2018
I have been talking with two I met on Instagram.. first one is Michaelgreen44 .. has tried and scammed me a few times., I didn’t go for it.. didn’t like when I confronted him.. has anyone else had contact with him?? Other one is paulCorner244.. I questioned everything he hasn’t asked for money.. wants me to trust him.. I even found the picture he was sending me and confronted him.. he insisted it was him.. theirs more he talks and says all the right things when I say anything about being scammed he says he would never do that and he doesn’t need my money.. says he’s a dr in the military.. I know its not true., just keeping my guard up..not giving in.. but it is enjoyable chatting with him.. anyone chatting with him?
CheckThisOut
December 14, 2018
I think these guys are medical practitioners at a school in Mexico in a residency program with a University in the U.S. Probably somewhere in CA. They are getting paid $11.25/hr while in residency. They have to do 2-3 months in rural areas. I came to this conclusion by pulling together bits and pieces of information. I also think they are setting up profiles on dating sites when they are in a certain area to make us think they are local to the city. It makes sense. More than likely they are not working for Unicef or the UN and are not in Syria. Something needs to be done to catch these guys.
Tha kid
December 14, 2018
My favorite was a guy claiming to be stationed in Syria. He claimed to miss the lovely country he left behind. Not "home", not "the states", but but the lovely country he left behind. So I threw out my fail safe question, "What branch are you in"? He said Syria. I reiterated my question and he came back with, " the branch in Syria or the United States"? I then asked if he'd ever met the American Prime Minister to which he responded, "Yes". I just said, ", Ok, I see what were dealing with here", and just like that I was blocked lol. I was just having fun with him tho. I could tell he knew nothing about the U.S. military before I even spoke to him. How? On his profile his job was listed as, SARGENT MAJOR at U.S. Military. Seattle, Washington D.C . Lol. TIP- If you feel that you are being scammed by someone using broken English and claiming to be in the U.S. Military, ask what branch. I haven't found one yet that knew even the concept of our military branches. Ranks either.
Susie
December 14, 2018
I meet a man on Facebook 3 months ago. Has a daughter works on pipelines . Said I'm his queen ..after 3 months needs money .due to problems with his bank . I'm different country . He working away from his home country . Anyway he says we family. Has asked me to get loan . On house . But he won't talk on video call .. Yet we do send video off each other. Him at work . His photos all much person in video.. his daughter looks like him .. I dnt know .But the money problem got me worried . He send me gifts . He just refuses to give me his address to.send his gifts . We talk on whatsapp . Daily . Even after I haven't come up.with money we still talk .
Perle49
January 07, 2019

In reply to by Susie

Hallo Susi, How can we connect to eachother to see whether we are speaking to the same person
A snowball's chance
December 14, 2018
Is the name Patrick Ethan familiar to anyone? Maybe Patrick Dae Ethan? Single dad, currently working over seas, border of Turkey/Syria. Son, Henry, in boarding school in Florida. Asked me to transfer money from his account to a company, blah, blah, blah. Sent lots of pictures, very handsome, very sweet, charming!!!
Asking for a friend
December 15, 2018
Friends online "fiancé" has been telling her he will be flying in soon. Now the date has been pushed back to December 18. He was going to be here for Thanksgiving. But work got in the way and he has to take care of some debts. Does this story sound familiar? Will the request for money come soon? I've shown her evidence, but only responds with a Thank you.
Do not reply
December 15, 2018
Any one ever hear of Henry James Donovan. An engineer working in the Gulf of Mexico lost his son and wife in a car accident, only when I checked no names on death records and when I asked him the names months later he gave me different names.
Scammedornot
December 16, 2018
Does someone here have contact with “Jack Dingxiang” through IG? Supposedly half Chinese, half American? He claims to be in Syria as a head chef for the US military? Widower with a 4y daughter that lives with his mom in Florida?
Marie53
December 16, 2018
I'm really sorry for all of you who have been scammed and so hurt. I've have been contacted by quite a few on Instagram when I opened an account recently. I was not expecting it and sort of flattered at first . All these soldiers?!? Then I got wise pretty quickly having read up about this problem. I think you have to be very very cynical and sceptical. Virtually all are scammers and should be blocked immediately. I have only let 1 guy contact me. Marine engineer from US etc blah blah. Kelvin Bryan?? When it was clear he could barely string a sentence together , I knew what the game was and blocked him within a couple of days. I won't fall for that again! We need to be vigilant and keep updated of new scams as there is no one to police the internet. And btw I've been on my own with 3 kids for a long time and would love to find some one but it is very unlikely it will be online!
Superman300
December 16, 2018
Hello everyone I actually have a few people right now I'm trying to expose one woman said she is a modle and cant meet me unless I get permission from her mngr and he is overseas witch makes no sense also said I have to pay for this permission second thing is they have real broken English and say they are American and 3rd thing with this whole thing is already did image search and it's coming back that they are all used on porn sites there is another woman I'm talking too trying to get more out of so I can expose them said she is a business woman and has lots of money but her brother is going to jail and she needs me to open a bank account so she can transfer the money in there because she cant do it from were she is also a scam if u guys have anything u want me to do to expose these people further please let me knw I got u!!!
MamaG
December 16, 2018
I have a male friend who has now sent 270K to Africa to a supposed Widow and her two adult daughters. Her husband was murdered, the the widow is in danger. Her husband didn't have a legal will, so this "widow" has enlisted my friend to help her get her dead husbands estate which includes several million dollars in gold put into her name. When that happens, she will put all the money in my fiends account and come to America to live happily ever after. My friend has lost everything . . . . job, friends, car, and soon, his home. He still believes it's real. He's never actually spoken to this widow, only email and texts.
gullible
January 07, 2019

In reply to by MamaG

Please, tell your friend not to give anymore. I'm a victim of a scam also - $29K. Not as much as your friend's, but it's all of my savings. I've heard of scams, but wasn't aware of their tactics. I didn't believe that I was in a scam situation until my daughter, who works for a major bank said that I was being scammed. I showed her all the account, authority letter, and wire transfer receipt. She said that they're all suspicious and have signs of fraudulence. I thought I was helping someone who was really in a desperate situation. Never will I ever trust anybody on line again. Report it to FTC. I'm still thinking seriously of doing the same.
azmom
December 16, 2018
Has anyone heard of a Bob Alex or Alex Bob? Supposedly petroleum engineer off of coast of Mexico, hometown Houston, TX has 16 yr old son. Parents passed away.
Star1946
December 16, 2018
Anyone know a Donald Arsenault..oil rig contractor...born in Italy..needing money for taxes or oil rig pipes. One daughter with boarding mother..parents doed in auto accident.
jj
December 16, 2018
Bruce Cole Allen is the name of a scammer on Instagram. He said he was a doctor from California and now worked as a military doctor on a mission in Libya. His English is really very good like native English speaker. He was very sweet and seemed concerned about people. He was good at playing his role as a doctor such as giving some suggestion or specific medicine which is not easy to find on the top three of google search. He asked for vacation fee because he couldn’t make transaction there. Well, the vacation fee doesn’t exist so if you are now talking someone who works for US military in other countries, they are scammers.
Lucy
April 15, 2019

In reply to by ee

Yes!!!! BRUCE COLE ALLEN is a scammer. He just contacted my daughter on instagram. Asked questions if she was married etc.. Of course pics of him show medical uniform. Next to a sports car etc...just to sway young girls in ! Stay away.
ekki8975
December 16, 2018
Be very wary of google hangouts users Clark Wilson and Nelly Wilson! Don’t be fooled like me ladies. I semi fell for it and was hoping this person that I encountered was not one of them but that’s what I get for trying too hard to wish... I had a spammer who wanted me to send him an iTunes gift card via picture. He said that he has no funds and he needed an iTunes gift card to use google hangouts and contact his bank. I sent him digitally through his email and he got mad at me saying it’s not the actual card. I tried troubleshooting with him and testing to see if he was legit. I told him to email me back the email I sent through iTunes. When he emailed me back the email I sent him I used the code right away before he did. When he tried using the code he measafed me saying that when he tried tried but the code didn’t work. (I know shady on my part but I had to test). So the next day I bought the card and took the picture. He was appreciative. I checked and he did activate the code right away. I told him he was to promise not to ask any more about money. He profusely said you’re my wife and I’m going to marry you. When I tried to message small talk on other things I knew his grammar was off saying “I no” than “I know” (red flag number one). He then asked if I could message his son who was 14. I said sure. When I messaged his son, he immediately clung to me saying “I love you mom” (red flag number 2). When I asked him questions to know the son better such as what are your interests, do you hang out with friends, the son was very vague (red flag number 3). Finally, I knew this person was a legit scam when he finallly showed his true colors and said I need help getting out of my contract. Didn’t give me any details as to how much or what the contract was. I tried prying for questions to make sure he’s legit. Wouldn’t tell me anything except he’s a long term surgeon volunteer and that He has no finances due to the contract (which is baloney I did my research the UN pays the colunteeers livable wages. If a soldier wants to deal with their contract they are to address the issue to their contractor from the country they enlisted in). Gave me the my co-workers did this online thing and found their wives to help them get out of their contracts; I have no friends sob story. I told him I don’t trust men who cannot figure Out their problems and are not a man enough to go to hisrecruiter to negotiate his contract terms and figure out his banking issue. I tried to call him voice but he got mad saying , “why you calling me you trying to get me in trouble?” When I messaged the “son” he told me dad has no money he hasn’t paid me (red flag number 4). In less than a week communicating with this Clark Wilson I knew his pattern to woo me. He’d get all flirty telling me how much he loved me and long messages professing his love. Just as he was about to melt my heart, he’d then say, “but you don’t trust me and can’t help me by paying $1000 to get me out of my contract”. He’d interchange the pronouns her him a lot. I kept telling him no I cannot give him that much money because I work two jobs and barely can afford money to pay the rent. But he kept pushing (red flag number 5) by saying I want to see you at Christmas and I know time is short I want to have a baby. So long of the short, ladies, is that if the person sounds too good to be true it most likely is.
Crazedleti
December 16, 2018
The same here a soldier in active duty .. Was in love with me after the second day.. He even had commander message me.. Tried to get me to biy im a itunes card then a asked for all my information .. Asked if i had a bank account so his commander could put money in my account for me to pay his 20000 dollar mortgage but needed my online bank information to do so.. Long story short i called him out on it. And havent hears from him since.. Told him to get a real job!!
Cat lover
December 17, 2018
Anyone dealing with a guy who claims to be buying gold & diamonds ?
Retired
October 01, 2019

In reply to by Cat lover

Yes I am or was. For two months. Something was not right about this situation.
Alh1971
December 17, 2018
Has anyone heard of or talked to an army soldier named Jim Smith? Says he is in Kabul Afghanistan and needs money to get home. Oh and of course he sooo inlove with me... Please help
stupid idiot
December 17, 2018
I have the same story as many of you. For me he is going by Antonio Giovanni Morgan. He is an orthopedic surgeon for the military in Afghanistan. We started talking as friends from a game we play which is Words With Friends 2. He has a 8 yr old daughter named Zoe. Wife and teenage son in a car accident 3 years ago which took them both and now he is a widow with Zoe in boarding school in Italy. I do not have money and live check to check. So he did deposit money in my account cause he said he signed a contract stating his money was put in a trust. When he deposited money in my account there was a small amount of $100 taken out on the same day. I thought maybe because it was from a bank transfer. So then comes my pay day on black Friday this year. I have my income directly deposited. Had been working lots of hours that day and when I went to bed that morning I had a couple hundred dollars in it. By the time I woke up for work after 5pm almost all of it was taken out of my account By several people. Then comes Monday after Thanksgiving and there is another deposit to my account and the call to the bank was made. I was told I was being scammed and got very angry with him. We argued over the next few days and then he told me it was a colleague of his that owed him money. That the money I had to keep making transfers out were for his daughters medical bills. She had got injured at school and need to get her arm fixed. Since she was in boarding school she was out of network. I had fell hard for this guy and I feel so stupid for doing so. He told me he was from Melbourne Florida. His parents were deceased and he was put in foster care at age 11. I was such a fool giving him my bank info to try to help his daughter out. He says right now he is sent out on some mission again. Says he works for United Forces. After I read all this today I called him out on it and have not heard back since. Do not expect to here the lies again.
smalltownhick
December 18, 2018
I have been chatting with Donald Hyler (dark haired one with a son) who contacted me on Facebook. Started out innocent enough, wanting to get to know me, be my "online best guy friend" because he knew I am married....didn't last...."fell" for me in the first month. Usual story - wife died in a car accident when son was 4, lonely, no family around, contracting engineer, raised in Brazil, living in Wilmington Delaware (supposedly born in US, raised in Brazil, came back when father died). Excellent written English but really thick accent and hard to understand on phone. Claimed screen on his iPhone was shattered, showed me a photo which I found immediately on reverse image. made plans to come visit and even sent me a photo of his plane ticket (also found ticket online, he only changed the name and destination (these people are trained in photoshop everyone, do your research) - didn't do his research well because the airline he said he was flying with doesn't fly into our small airport) claimed his flight would arrive at 7 a.m. but first flight doesn't arrive until 8:30, claimed customs was detaining him (customs won't detain a US resident flying within the US unless there is a reason), after much time messaged me saying he was being sent back (really? and I am stupid enough to believe any of this!). A couple months later while we are chatting he lets it slip "I sometimes wish I had actually shown up for our visit". Then came the scam - big job out of town, worth lots of money, needs me - the only person he can trust of course - to open a bank account to accept the payment because his bank account wasn't big enough to accept such a large deposit (um, what?). I said no, he said it was the only way he could get paid, I told him to get his lawyer involved and get the "big corporation" to send him a certified check, take it to a bank and open a freaking bank account in his own name.....funny, he still hasn't been paid and it was from September. Why do I still talk to him? I enjoy talking to him for the most part, it is when he starts asking me for money I turn the tables on him and whine about how hard my situation is and how I am too proud to ask anyone for help but it is really weighing on me (reverse psychology works great). Be careful everyone, don't be a victim!
shy
December 18, 2018
I came across a guy in a matrimonial site, says he is an Indian but born and brought up in US Albeny and works as a Civil engineer at the Peace corps in Syria doing some kinda construction work. He has sent some of his pictures and only chats on whatsapp but does not call or either has a FB or Insta, he says they are not allowed to have social accounts or call people. He has asked for pictures since this was supposed to a marriage alliance through a marriage site. I have a feeling he might be fake, how do I know for sure? I tried checking with his Image in google, but it was of no help, could not find anything. Please help.
Anonymous
December 18, 2018
Hello, my mum has been conversing with man that messaged her on Facebook. He asked her to talk on hangouts so that their messages and photos are private. My mum said he works in on a oil rig. His a widow, lost his wife through child birth. His half German and wants to start a business in Texas. My mother seems quite taken with this man and feels she has a lot in common with him. My siblings and I have tried to warn her to be careful as he might be a scammer. But she unfortunately she continues to communicate with him. My sister recently found out that my mother has borrowed £5000 from her sisters. Am not sure why but I have a dreadful feeling it maybe for this man. I tried searching his name on Facebook but profiles of women come up. Please help am not quite sure what to do?
FTC Staff
December 19, 2018

In reply to by Anonymous

This story this person is telling your mother sounds like a scam. Scammers often play on emotion; they say they are working far from home, are all alone in the world, have a child, need money, and have only their new love to help them avoid disaster. You could invite your mother to read some of the other comments people have sent to this blog.

An online love interest who asks for money is almost certainly a scammer. Scammers often want to leave the dating site immediately and change to personal email or private messaging. They may claim love very quickly after meeting to build attachment.

There's a danger in helping a scammer with his money. Some scammers use people to help them transfer stolen money. They don't reveal that the money is stolen - they tell a story to hide the purpose for the transaction. They ask their new sweetheart to use her bank account, or open a new account, receive and transfer money. If you do this for a scammer, your name is on the bank account and on the money transfer forms. If you get involved with one of these schemes, you could lose money and personal information, and you could get into legal trouble.

MacTavish
December 18, 2018
I have had several men “chat” with me in Words With Friends. They all say they are from the US but are currently working out if the country (Brazil, Poland, Norway and on oil rigs in Alaska) Two are supposedly widowers with a teenage daughter and only one as asked for an iTunes gift card. I don’t trust any of them and have started blocking them. This is a scrabble game....not a dating app!!
Missbean
July 04, 2019

In reply to by MacTavish

I have had a few men in the last week contact me on words with friends. Anyone hear of a man named Scott Moline? He is from Spain but lives and works in Atlantic City. Overseas in Scotland on a contracting job.
ScammedInTheSouth
December 19, 2018
I have been talking to a man who calls himself Smith Anderson. He found me on instagram. He said he lived in Scottsdale , AZ. His mother is Spanish and his father was from Scottsdale. Very muscular, attractive and personable guy. He has sent me lots of pictures, but won't video chat because he says the oil rig doesn't have wifi on an ethernet connection. He went to Turkey to work on an oil rig. After a while he asked me to send money to pay off debts so he could come back to the states, $2300.00. I sent what I could . Stupid I know! I wanted to believe so much. The money I sent wasn't enough and he needed more which I refused to send. He got nasty saying he quit his job because of me. Now he says he needs $2300 to come see me for Christmas. I'm not sending it because I don't have it. Feeling embarrassed and sad because I fell for this.
Thesameone
December 20, 2018

In reply to by ScammedInTheSouth

Girl..he's probably the same one I met on Tinder. What site did you meet him?
scammedinthesouth
December 27, 2018

In reply to by Thesameone

He messaged me on Instagram and then wanted to switch over to an app called LINE.
Asking for a friend
December 19, 2018
Why do all these guys work on oil rigs? Latest story is that there was a fight on the rig and the scammer was injured and now in the hospital. Crazy stories.
stupid idiot
December 19, 2018
So I have a question for all of you is there any way we can do anything about these scammers? Has anyone filed a report with the FBI or anything like that?
Suredid
December 20, 2018

In reply to by stupid idiot

I filed a report online on the FBI site. This is ridiculous and all these scammers seem to be in CA.
CC
December 20, 2018
anybody have a run in with an Eric in Turkey, contractor on pipeline? Guess I have been stupid...was trusting. never did an on-line dating, then tried Mates1...he is also on Hangouts. would love feedback if he is familiar to anyone.
ItsAScam
December 20, 2018

In reply to by CC

Trust me it is a scam. What name is he using on Hangouts? Does he have dark hair, brown eyes, very handsome?
CC
December 22, 2018

In reply to by ItsAScam

he uses his real name as far as I know...nice looking but greyish eyes, nice smile, greying light brown hair. saying he is in a removal detention at airport at moment
California girl
December 21, 2018
The guy I was talking to is Justin Anderson Boardman. He says he is from Indianapolis and is Army police and stationed in Afganistan. No family, wife died 4 years ago. Says he was born in the US and moved to Spain for most of his life which is why his English is so bad! His Drivers License said State of Indianapolis which obviously incorrect as it is the State of Indiana! The drivers license is signed by a Debra someone and the address is fake! He then sent me his Military ID which looked legit however it was in the name of Justin Anderson and his “supposed” last name was left off! I had it checked and it’s fake. I also messaged a Military Romance Scam Page on Facebook and they said they have lots of complaints against him too! I only lost $50 thank goodness!!! Ladies don’t fall for these guys, they are slick and know what to say to make you feel special. If it feels like something it’s off listen to your intuition!!!
vfoxDon't use …
December 21, 2018
morgan sidney anyone?
Followit
April 09, 2021

In reply to by vfoxDon't use …

Yes, nice looking man, blue eyes, orthopedic surgeon from France in a UN mission in Aleppo Syria