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Image of cupid and heartNot everyone using online dating sites is looking for love. Scammers create fake online profiles using photos of other people — even stolen pictures of real military personnel. They profess their love quickly. And they tug at your heartstrings with made-up stories about how they need money — for emergencies, hospital bills, or travel. Why all of the tricks? They’re looking to steal your money.

As if all that isn’t bad enough, romance scammers are now involving their victims in online bank fraud. Here’s how it works: The scammers set up dating profiles to meet potential victims. After they form a “relationship,” they come up with reasons to ask their love interest to set up a new bank account. The scammers transfer stolen money into the new account, and then tell their victims to wire the money out of the country. Victims think they’re just helping out their soulmate, never realizing they’re aiding and abetting a crime.  

Here are some warning signs that an online love interest might be a fake. They ask you to:

  • chat off of the dating site immediately, using personal email, text, or phone
  • wire money using Western Union or Money Gram
  • set up a new bank account

Did you know you can do an image search of your love interest’s photo in your favorite search engine? If you do an image search and the person’s photo appears under several different names, you’re probably dealing with a scammer. And if the person’s online profile disappears a few days after they meet you, that’s another tip-off.

Here’s the real deal: Don’t send money to someone you met online — for any reason. If your online sweetheart asks for money, you can expect it’s a scam.

Unfortunately, online dating scams are all too common. There may be tens of thousands of victims, and only a small fraction report it to the FTC. If this happens to you, please report it at ReportFraud.ftc.gov.

A woman looking at a dating site on her computer.

Monica
May 13, 2019

In reply to by snookie

I have been talking with a guy on an oil rig, wife died 2 yrs ago, has a son in Spain in the airforce. Just asked for $4k. He has beautiful blue eyes, grey hair, five o'clock shadow, gorgeous. How can we exchange pictures?
Sulli1960
July 11, 2019

In reply to by Monica

My guy is on Facebook, David Marcus Billy. He has lots of Indian guys applauding his photos. "Good one!" etc. He says he's from Barcelona and currently lives in Santa Ana. Has a daughter in boarding school. Would love to know if anyone recognizes him.
Laray
May 16, 2019

In reply to by snookie

Hi snnokie i have the same problem with a guy he told me from ur uk under name danny but he told me i was buying for u a nice shoose and bags from brands i see the pic its download from a site Dannywalter49 but i didnt confirm the link in the mail. So the order not complete i ask him te send me western union if u want bank account hahahaha he block me he told me i wana put all ur pic online i ggoogle him he have many profile on romance scammer website
CANTDUPEME
June 04, 2019

In reply to by snookie

Is he French? Did he say his kid needed peronal items because he left in a hurry and didn't leave enough for his son to get supplies? At to his point I've had no less than 10 men try to pull something similar to what I'm ready by in these threads. Latest one, Finnish, into gemstones wanted me to invest money with him to buy me some. When I said I'd need more info he said I didn't trust him and started saying all kind of mean things. Said I'd never find anyone with my attitude. And this was only 3 days into chatting with him.
Shananigans
September 27, 2019

In reply to by snookie

I wonder if your guy with the beautiful eyes is the same as the one who contacted me. This guy is sitting at an office desk. His eyes are almost gray. Really handsome middle aged guy.. I already told this guy that I knew he was fake and he’s still trying to play these games.. Lol
Senga
December 20, 2019

In reply to by Jumpup2

Sound the same , good looking and doctor he said?
Lmjosep
March 12, 2019

In reply to by Don't use yYou…

I really wish someone would share photos with me so I can find out if this guy is the same guy I've been talking to. different story but it sounds like he looks the same and as I said before I'm sure they change their stories all the time so I was just like you check it out I mean how can we go about this? please!
patty
March 31, 2019

In reply to by Don't use yYou…

Sounds like one I just blocked works as a surgeon sounds black just got transferred to Nigeria retired feb 28 and needs money to get to Arizona he got me for 1100 in steam cards
Eureka
February 11, 2019

In reply to by Jumpup

Hi i meet someone recently with the same background, same with a daughter actually sending me message how happy she is and convinsing me to say yes to hes message proposal..the description you said on how he looks seems the same person , can you send me hes pic to confirm if hes the one...
usedinne
February 19, 2019

In reply to by Eureka

Don’t talk to this man please! Sounds like the man who ruined my life. I just recently within the last two weeks quit speaking to him and he is making threats to me. I gave him more than 10, 000 that I didn’t have over a years time. He ruined my life. Exact same story different city.
Lindacat
May 23, 2019

In reply to by Jumpup

Your story is similar to mine. My guy goes by name of Robert Henrik Jonas. Says he is 57, from Netherlands, widowed, has 15 yr old daughter, Sofia, in boarding school in Oregon. His daughter emails me, telling me how happy she is that her dad is in love with me. He works on offshore oil rig in Norway...says he is supposed to get vacation soon but keeps saying his vacation has been delayed due to work. He started telling me he loves right away, sent me pic of engagement ring, proposed to me. Always asking me for ITunes cards. Calls me on Hangouts almost every night.
Don't use your…
May 28, 2019

In reply to by Lindacat

Same thing... I have. Guy named Gordon Borban. Requested me as a friend on linked in. Asked a bunch of crazy questions. Tells me his wife, father and brother are late... has a 12 year old daughter named Aubrey. I told him I was married. He didn’t mind much so I played a long with it for a couple days... I’m not sure what he’s after?? But probably similar.
Don't use your…
October 16, 2020

In reply to by Jumpup

I have been text in a similar way x. Guy calls himself George.l similar identity sys he’s in s oil rig . Although he gave me us home address. As a child in private school in New York but even he gave me is address and gave me is sons email Ian’s I have been talking by email to him I want to know if this is a scam .
Horse mom
December 07, 2020

In reply to by Jumpup

I am talking with a guy right now that works on an oil rig in the gulf coast whose wife died six years ago from cancer and his daughter just turned 17 and us in boarding school in California. His name is Steve Johnson the picture you are talking about is it in a bathroom with a black sash draped over a blue shirt?
Lonely heart
January 11, 2019

In reply to by Shaylah8

Does any one no soner hill sounds so familiar all these story’s I hate been scam but I never sent money just my heart
Nunnu
February 22, 2019

In reply to by Lonely heart

This one poses as a doctor Send you is so called banking details pin the lot. You open his bank and photo appear with all his Bank account balance. He ask you withdraw everything. 10 minutes later bank ask your bank details with a heck of a fee you must pay. If you don't pay scammer cry. Lol I gave fake bank details Mister still begging me
fomagomo
March 09, 2019

In reply to by Nunnu

Hey Nunnu, I think someone is trying to scam someone I know. He sent his bank account info and she opened it and said there was almost a million in it and she had to take out the money and transfer it to pay for something for him. And it sounds kind of real to me, but I'm not sure. He said it was bank of Germany or something. What was the fee they asked you to pay?
patty
March 31, 2019

In reply to by fomagomo

I have been talking to a doctor is is on an off shore rig by Russia made me a beneficiary of 5.7 million dollars with ussr global bank which I cannot find first this fsa told me I had to pay 1700 to get the activation code first not its 12000 his name is dr Jeff bezoar from Egypt wife died has a daughter we talked about the Bible a lot I told him that it was a scam he told me it was back wages anyway I blocked him and got rid of hangouts and BBM he emailed me I won’t answer
cpm
August 05, 2019

In reply to by patty

I’ve been talking to the same man same story exactly
Barbara
March 31, 2019

In reply to by fomagomo

Hi I just started talking to a man who also asked to transfer money from his account to mine and very rich as well
Cam eel
May 19, 2019

In reply to by fomagomo

I just had the same thing happen. He asked me to open his bank account and transfer it to a man in Texas. It was over 2 million but he wanted to send $120,000 to him for goods he needed for an oil refinery job in Cape Town, South Africa. His name is Richard Wilson. Says he lives in Wilmington, De. And has an office in NYC
Suzie
July 18, 2020

In reply to by fomagomo

I had been shown bank account with million or more in it. Asked me to pay out customs fees to release equine to he was selling as a sideline. German, marine engineer59 years- smooth talker. Just scammed me for four thousand pounds!
Suzie
July 19, 2020

In reply to by fomagomo

I talked to this guy for five months- professed to be a German marine engineer in the Baltic Sea. Again he asked me to pay for something out of his account - younger picture in the bank account profile- very handsome. Account showed nearly two million dollars. Keeps asking for google cards for child. Got me to change bank account. Asked for money to pay housekeeper ( it went to Nigeria)! Then said ships ‘agent’ could give him limited access to his account wanted my bank account details, passwords , pin to get through all security checks. Nothing happened for a few weeks until I told him I had made a transfer from another account. Two hours after telling him- my whole bank account was cleaned out- the lot! Thousands! STAY AWAY from this scammer, he is very convincing!
Gabrielle
April 20, 2019

In reply to by Lonely heart

Yes I no him I was taking to him just a few weeks back he is asking me for iTunes cards iv stop.takj g to him now
jennefrog69
May 01, 2019

In reply to by Gabrielle

Did he say he was a Dr. working in for the UN in Syria.Was from Sacramento
moonfroggie
May 06, 2019

In reply to by jennefrog69

I have been talking with a man who claims to be a neurosurgeon working on contract with the UN in Syria. He says he is from Austin Texas. His name is William Logan.
Tiredofthenet
May 14, 2019

In reply to by moonfroggie

Oscar harrison on my words 2 game. Surgeon from Dallas now in Syria. Blocked and reported to Word2
Rosemary Watson
June 17, 2020

In reply to by Tiredofthenet

Oscar Harrison started chatting with me on Words 2. He said he was a general surgeon in a military camp in Syria, on a contract with the US military. He made a big deal out of telling me he wae looking for his passpory, then sent a picture of it. He said he could not video chat because he didn't have a camera on his phone, yet he sent me several snapshots over the few days we chatted. He asked me to download "hangout" so we could chat easier and send photos. He initiated chat eith me every few hours for a couple of days, then nothing for 24 hours. I texted him to find out if he was ok. He resonded saying I was a beautiful lady, and he didn't want to be a distaction. I had told him I was very happily married, and that I had told my husband about him. There was nothing wrong with being friends. He said he was a widower, and he had 2 daughters in boarding school for nursing, and they didn't allow phones, so they used walkie "torqueys" to communicate. He was unable to call his girls, but needed new "steam" card to charge his wallkie "torquey", but he was unable to go where they were sold and he was unable to contact his "agent" to get him a new one. I wasn't sure what he was talking about, because a) is there a walkie talkie made that can transmit overseas? And b) he had a phone in which he was talking to me. And c) I can't believe any boarding school that had kids with parents overseas working in a military instalation would deny a child the opportunity to speak to thier parent somehow. Anyway...he said it was time fir him to go to morning prayers, that they prayed severel times a day for their patients , their safety and their families. The next time I hward from him, he said their was an explosion in the camp, and all of their foid supply was gone. He said not even the government could get to them, because it was such a secret location and the area was infiltrated with terrorists. The only way they could get help was for him to get a hold of his agent, and to do that, he needed to get that card to charge his walkie "torquey". He kept telling me I could get it at any pharmacy or game shop. I told him a) I don't drive, b)we live nearly 50 miles from any store that sold them. c) how would I get it to him if I was able to get one. And d) I didnt know i I had that much money. He said I could snap a picture of the back of the card and send it to him in "hangout". Then he demonstrated.....using the phone that he told me had no camera. He even called me and talked about the things we had discussed in chat. Then he wanted me to pray with him "in Jesus name". I had he assumed he was muslim, but he claimed to be a christian. Anyway, I told him there was nothing I could do on Sunday, because I had to go to the bank to see if I had any money in my savings account. At 9:30 Monday morning he messageed me to find out if I got the card. I told him I had forgotten that we had clised that account. I was very sorry, but Icould not give or even loan him money I did not have. He told me to take good care of myself, and i haven't heard from him since. I pretty much knew he was scamming me from the moment he sent me the picture of himself and his daughters and the picture oc his passport on the "phone that had no camera". I kind of wanted to know how far he would take it. I kept telling him of people within the military hospital, ie, the commanding officer, the supply officer, the chaplain, even the red cross. He kept trying to redirect the conversation . It went from how he would spend his own money to get food to keep everyone from starving to death, to needing to talk to his girls. I really don't know what would motivate someine to keep up a story with so many holes in it. Don't try this. We're not as dumb as you think we are.
Tan deh
September 13, 2020

In reply to by moonfroggie

I just block him, the surgeon in Syria, I am pretty sure he is from africa
Msawesome
September 13, 2020

In reply to by moonfroggie

I also have a Doctor Neurosurgeon working with United Nations and suddenly sent to Syria two days ago from North Carolina. Now he says his iPhone n Mac are destroyed and wants me to send him new ones. He gave me Deltastatebank.com as the one to transfer funds to my account. There’s only one branch on this bank website and phone doesn’t work. I’m sure I’m being scammed - but he sent a pic of his UN identification card with his younger picture- I’m confused. Is it a scam? Please let me know his name is doctor Craig Levi Ulrich
Helper
September 16, 2020

In reply to by Msawesome

Hi also talking to a doctor who is a Neurosurgeon said his name is Roland Rivers also just started a facebook page
Amazed1531
September 24, 2020

In reply to by Msawesome

Oh my gosh he did the exact same thing to me . I just spoke with him. He asked for a iPhone and Apple Watch!
Amazed1531
September 24, 2020

In reply to by Msawesome

I asked him for his mil email address and he said he can’t access it right now. I met him on a dating website. He told me his wife and child died in an accident.
lisacnoo1
May 13, 2019

In reply to by jennefrog69

I’ve had a doctor from Sacramento talking to me but he says he’s in Afghanistan Need money for a book to stuffy for a promotion
Billrogersjr
May 24, 2019

In reply to by lisacnoo1

Please I'm so sorry to bother you but I'm trying to post to see if I'm being or trying to be scammed,just need help,thank you
JP
June 16, 2019

In reply to by jennefrog69

I just got scammed too. Dentist, Sacramento, little boy. What did he say his name is?
Romantic Man
January 18, 2022

In reply to by jennefrog69

I am talking to a Dr. Who says he is from San Francisco and he has a contract with the UN and he is an Orthopedic Dr. In Syria. He talked to me so sweetly and romantically and then all of a sudden he has a problem and needs help getting the internet in Syria where he is stationed. He only has 3 1/2 years left in his contract and he will be coming to Louisiana to see me when he gets out. He needs a Google Play card to get the internet so he can continue to talk to me.. He said it is only 100.00 and if I love him I will send it to him. He sent me a picture of the lab where he works and a picture of himself in it. It is the same picture of the man in the profile. His name is Allen Becker.
Jenny 11
March 19, 2019

In reply to by Shaylah8

It would be helpful if all of you sent a picture of the guy so we all could verify ours
Thevoiceofreason
June 20, 2019

In reply to by Doozie

PLEASE ladies (and gents). If someone you have never met asks you for money, why are you even thinking of giving it to them? If the stories here sound similar to yours, regardless of the name they have given or even their photo, then it is likely to be a scam. You DO NOT need a photo for comparison. BLOCK them and keep YOUR money in YOUR pocket/bank. PLEASE, do not ruin your life. Of course, if you have plenty of money to just lose...... Keep safe.
Maui
May 10, 2019

In reply to by Shaylah8

I’m chatting with a guy, Dylan Connor, has fake IG account under Dylan Williams with Italian model photos, not very good ones. Lives SF currently working on a contract in Italy.
Queen
September 09, 2018

In reply to by Just want the truth

That guy your describing sounds like mine. Loves me very much and wants us to be together forever. Got all of that after chatting for a week.
Sondra
March 27, 2019

In reply to by Queen

There is a new guy i am chatting up with, and he been loving and telling me he loves me and i am the type of wife he is looking for, so far he never asked for money from me or anything at all, except telling me his bank card cant be use now, and the bank block his card, and couldnt unblock it, and will get alternative ways to sort it as needs to pay a shipment that is stuck in customs. I was waiting for him to ask me, but he didnt.. can i get some feedback if this is also a part of the scheme?
Saving Grace
April 06, 2019

In reply to by Sondra

Don't and I mean do not trust this person. Get out of this now!!!
Debbie Lynn Skubik
April 28, 2019

In reply to by Saving Grace

I had the same kind of scam but slightly different stories. Always a man , says he's madly in love w/me, asks for iTunes and Apple cards etc.. then asks for money which I never send, and gets mad when you don't send it! I've had several "cat fishers", it hapoens all the time, 3rd world countries try to steal American wealthy or everyone's money to help their families. Very sad all thge way around.