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Looking to start a new relationship? For some, that may mean meeting a new love interest online. Word to the wise: sometimes it’s best to lead with your head and not your heart.

Millions of Americans use dating sites, social networking sites, and chat rooms to meet people. And many forge successful relationships. But scammers also use these sites to meet potential victims. They create fake profiles to build online relationships, and eventually convince people to send money in the name of love.

The Federal Trade Commission receives thousands of reports each year about romance scammers who create fake online relationships only to steal their victims’ money.

Unfortunately, an online love interest who asks for money is almost certainly a scam artist.

The FTC’s new infographic, developed with the American Bankers Association Foundation, lists common signs of online dating scams and what to do if someone you meet online asks you for money.

Below are some tips to identify a real romance versus a scammer cruising for a target.

Online Dating Scams. Has an online love interest asked you for money? That's a scam. Scammers know millions of people use online dating sites. They are there, too, hiding behind fake profiles. Signs of a scam: Professes love quickly. Claims to be from the U.S., but is overseas for business or military service. Asks for money, and lures you off the dating site. Claims to need money — for emergencies, hospital bills, or travel. Plans to visit, but can’t because of an emergency. $220 million lost in 2016. $56 million lost in 2012. Reports to the FBI tripled over 5 years (4,476 reports in 2012; 14,546 reports in 2016) What to do: Slow down — and talk to someone you trust. Don’t let a scammer rush you. Never wire money, put money on a gift or cash reload card, or send cash to an online love interest. You won’t get it back. Contact your bank right away if you think you’ve sent money to a scammer. Report your experience to: • The online dating site • Federal Trade Commission: ftc.gov/complaint • Federal Bureau of Investigation: ic3.gov. Learn more at ftc.gov/imposters and aba.com/engagement

Please share this information with others. Victims may be embarrassed to talk about their experiences, but you can help. A simple phone call, email or text, saying “Look what I just found” and sharing this information may make a difference in someone else’s life.

Warrior Widow
January 14, 2020
I met Herman on Dec 4th using POF. He said he was Norwegian and lived in Dewitt NY. Right before we were to meet, he suddenly was called away for work as a structural engineer on an oil rig in the Gulf of Mexico. We talked and texted for weeks. I was so fooled by his charm and warmth. He had a few mishaps on the oil rig and suddenly needed to purchase a replacement pipe for the sum of $20,000.00. He had only half of that and sent me videos of his inability to transfer funds from a foreign bank acct . Then, it happened. He asked me for the $10,000.00. I immediately shut him down and hung up. His text messages pleaded with me to forgive him. I called him and told him he had given me the #1 red flag for online dating. He was so sorry. Well, I forgave him. The next day he texted and asked for the money again. I told him to never text or call me. He responded, "Wow" I blocked him. His full name he gave was Herman Bredesen.
Samantha
January 16, 2020
Met a fellow on POF, Duc Santos, claim to be an antiques dealer out of Denver Colorado. Was travelling to Italy for antiques auction buying trip, once there he asked me to purchase and iTunes gift card and Steam gift card. I refused and it soon got nasty. Such a shame
hawaiiangirl06
January 18, 2020
Has anyone had an encounter with a Jenkins David????? He states he’s a civil engineer deployed in Japan and can’t talk on the phone or video chat due to a contract. Asked if I would send money for his internet otherwise we won’t be able to communicate. States that he loves me and I am the one he wants to spend the rest of his life with.
Almost dupped
January 19, 2020
I had a man approach me on Twitter, he calls himself "Gavy Gunter", shows great pictures of himself and talked about how he works on an offshore UK drilling rig, under contract as a mechanical engineer. He asked me to give him Google hangout address to continue to talk. He presented himself as a widower of four years who's wife died in a car accident. He talked about having a 14 year old daughter in boarding school in Elmira NY. Professes his love for me after only talking a short time. Ends his chats with multiple heart emojis. Today he asked me to send him a ebay gift card in the amount of $100. for his daughter because he wanted her to be happy. I felt immediately that all his efforts at getting to know me were all leading up to a scam. When I confronted him on how inappropriate it was for him to ask that of me he was enraged and ask me how I dared to speak to him that way. I cut it off and blocked him but I think others should know he is not for real.
Micky
October 30, 2020

In reply to by Almost dupped

I think i now that guy. Same story here only he used his name different.As Michael Gunter
Lou
December 05, 2020

In reply to by Almost dupped

Sounds like the Gavy Gunter that reached out to me on words with friends...trying to get my email or phone number for what’s app
He thought I …
January 20, 2020
I met this guy online and he says he's in love with me (sure) what a shame we never meet in person. He's suppose names is Jerry Maxwell and he sid to live in Jacksonville FL. but his phone numbe is from Evansville Illinois. He says that coming to visit me after a business trip to Turkey. Them I received his call telling me hes equipment been held in the Turkey port and he need $5000 to finish his business. And at the moment I tell him I don't have this money, he ask me about to send him $100 by I tunes card. Obviously is a scammer. Don't you? The only nice thing he call me on my birthday, I was sad and he make my day so happy.
agent319
January 20, 2020
Has anyone been contacted by an Aurora Ortiz via social media?
SavageJDon't u…
January 21, 2020
Anyone hear of a Matt Nilsson? Supposedly born in Australia living in Michigan. Oil driller. Has mom and 1 daughter 5yrs old. Does have an accent but does not sound Aussie. Says he has lived in Norway and Alaska. Likes to travel the world. Has not asked for money. Been talking on phone for 2 months. Some of the scams I am reading here are making me wonder. He Did send photos of a handsome man and a little pretty blond girl. met on Match. Too good to be true usually is. Says he is in Venezuela for next 50 day on an offshore oil rig. Ugh.
Stop catfisher…
June 01, 2020

In reply to by SavageJDon't u…

Matt Nilsson is a catfisher, scammer/ fraudster. Stay away from him, he will charm you, say what you want to hear until you fall for him for him and seem genuine, then he will use you for his financial gain. Save your heart and your wallet. Don't become his victim
Stop these people
June 06, 2020

In reply to by SavageJDon't u…

Matt or Matthew Nilsson is a carfisher, scammer, and a fraud. He will ask for and take your money and say anything he has to in order to get it. Stay very far away, do not let him charm you. I have reported him to FTC for what he did and wanted to do. Do not believe whaf he says.
Wow, scammed again
October 25, 2020

In reply to by Stop these people

Met Matt Nilsson on Facebook....started talking and boom, he asks me to go to hangouts and his Facebook is gone! Hmm. Has a 17 year old daughter in boarding school. Lives in Raleigh NC, phone is from there. Can’t do face time lol. In Switzerland as a Drilling Engineer. Stuck there due to pandemic! Daughter at hi Poole with Nanny haha! Has a package he wants to send me but every time it’s getting delivered, another snag lol. Keeps asking for google cards for his internet! Claims he loves me. Yeah, right, sure
S
January 21, 2020
Hi all, i thought i'd post this experience to help others. I met this *lovely christian* on CoffeeMeetsBagel, and Faith was extremely important to me. He is a chemical engineer, an American living in Scotland (+44 7537 146599). Infrequent and inconsistent contact, yet very quickly claimed love. Most definitely a sweet talker. For a little bit, he appeared busy and down, as he was working really hard to fight for a contract in Turkey. Then one day, he shared the great news that he won the contract, and needed to work in turkey immediately, for the next 2-3bmonths. Due to the excitement, he bought mom and me gifts! Then one day he shared that his waistbag fell in the water, which contained all the cash he required to feed his workers. I asked what i could do to help, if i could send money to help (more to test) . He said no, he had enough to pull through the next week. Very quickly, maybe a few days later. He appeared frustrated as his cash was going down. He kept asking if i had received gift. He then explained that, I would have to pay Charge to receive the present and it should not be more than Usd2000. However he didnt want me to spend money, so in the gift box he put enough cash for me to: 1. Pay the charge, 2. For my upkeep and 3. Send the remaining back to him so that he could feed his worker! The next day, I received an whatsapp message from a courier, who claimed that for the custom clearence and oversized package, I need to pay 3700 to have the gift delivered. I returned the call via my phone provide, I was told that the number was disconnected. Then i whatsapp to ask why, and asked details of the courier company. I was sent a link to the shipping company for live chat. I never clicked on that link. I looked up the site, it was there, but looked sus. After my further polite questions, the courier appeared impolite and rude... This is not how we operate. Either you follow the instruction, or you wont get the parcel... Then my sweetheart all of a sudden had all the time for me. I was not able to talk much due to work. However as soon as i got home, I video called him for the first time. He hung up on me. He said rig policy, no video chat as it could cause explosion. Aha! Then he pressed me for paying the charge. I started to question politely. In the end, I went, I have been scammed. He asked why i stop trusting him. I then said, i have been scammed. He was like, what? He asked why i suddenly stop trusting him. I told him that, as i shared, I prayed for this everyday and i know that im being watched over. God opened my eyes and i see that you are a scammer, and God is real. He is a very goodlooking asian man. A bit about myself, reasonably cute fit, active, well educated, and have a good job. I felt a bit ashamed. But still i am here, to share the experience, to help.
JEJ
January 25, 2020
Has anybody heard of a Francis Wang? He works off shore on an oilrig? Lives in Florida? Mother has needed money due to an emergency surgery, there was an accident on his boat, and now needing money for fix a crucial part of equipment?
Kivi.Christina
January 25, 2020
My user name is a scammers name: Christina Kivi. Of course this isn't her real name it's her made up scammer name. Her fake job is Interior design and she's working on a "Big" job in Turkey. Many scammers use this lie, a big job in Turkey! My guess is they're from there. Also, she never answered the phone when I called and always had excuses why she couldn't answer her phone. Another thing scammers say is their family is dead and/or they are widowers. They also profess their love very quickly and want to know all about your job so they can get an idea of what you make $. They also have bad tempers and will quickly fly into a rage if they don't get their way. They also ask A LOT of questions and try to get personal details quickly. Don't give your full name/real name until you know someone is real. Don't use an email address with your real name- use a generic email address until you know someone well. Remember, scammers are collecting bits and pieces of information about you to Scam you!
Adrinavarro29
January 26, 2020
Antonio James is a scammer on Instagram. Ladies Be careful of Antonioj4315 he uses a profile picture of a Doctor. Right away he started asking for thousands & telling me how much he loves me & wants to marry after just 1 week of chatting. This person is a con artist!
Debbie
January 28, 2020
Has anyone been scammed by a man name Alex Peterson ? Has a 16 year old daughter in boarding school in Nebraska named Sarah ? He’s stuck on an oil rig on the Gulf of Mexico and there was an accident on the ship and he needs money to fix the equipment before he can leave the ship and receive a large check ?
Susanne
January 28, 2020
I been talking to Alex Peterson,Claims he's on a rig on the gulf of Mexico. Claims he has a 16 year old daughter in boarding school.in Omaha Nebraska Her name is Sarah Her mum died when she was six..They come Uk. LONDON.asking money because accounts are frozen.because of fraudulent against his account He claims He lives in los Angeles California He gor me
Supersassy
January 28, 2020
I'm been scammed by pof website
Alan C
January 28, 2020
I've had two separate women try to scam me with the same story it started as I love interest someone I met on a dating site but then I noticed they're English isn't that good in writing and then they say oh they were from a different country but moved here then they start asking for gift card because they can't pay their phone but yet they send picture and they look like they have way more money than I have look like some supermodel then they tell me their lawyer contact them about inheritance from their late parents and they need my bank information to put the money in my bank and then have me with Rod and I said oh hell no I know this one in two separate girls did the same thing same story so watch out for that one guys
Anon
January 29, 2020
Anyone come across Brian Walker ?
nessels43
January 29, 2020
I met a guy a few weeks back. Says he’s on an oil rig New Orleans of the Gulf of Mexico. Everything was going great. Says his wife was shot dead as she was in the military and he has 2 sons aged 6 and 10. We spoke on the phone and video chatted. Then last week he messaged me and he was frantic as he said he was assisting his colleague and didn’t see where he had his foot and fell through and into the ocean.. lost his phone and wallet... and need gift card so he could get the guy that delivers groceries to the rig to get him a phone so we can keep chatting. At first he wanted $500 and I said no I can’t afford that so he said $200 I said no... he then said “babe I need to keep in touch with you” I said I wasn’t going anywhere and to contact me when he gets a phone and to focus on staying in touch with his boys who is being looked after by a nanny. So much more but I knew he was scamming me as soon as he asked for gift cards. I’m hurt but I will get over it. I didn’t send one red cent.
Baby Doll
January 30, 2020
I believe my mother is being scammed. She claims to have been talking to a man named John Peson from North Carolina. He claims he is an accountant and has went to Africa for a week for work. He says he is a widow due to his wife dying from giving childbirth. He came out of nowhere on her Facebook messenger and was very consistent. They ended up talking on the hanging out app. While he is so called in Africa on work he asked her to send three $100.00 Amazon gift cards so they can talk on the phone. I told her Amazon gift cards are not used for that and that it is a scam. He has been asking when is her next pay day if you all come across someone with similar made up stories please be aware he is a scammer.
BMS18
January 31, 2020
Brian Walker Erik Kuhn Smith Anyone had contact with either of these charmers ?
Texasgirl
January 31, 2020
They are using bumble too: Vaughn never would verify his picture, said he lived in Texas, but out of state area code; just tried the iTunes with me wanting 25.00 for apps! He was in Tokyo on business. I said no and goodbye.
carebear91
January 31, 2020
I am currently in this situation, met a guy online and while he hasn’t professed his love. He said he was out of country for work and got robbed and can’t get home because his bank closed the card. He is now asking for money. I told him no and I can’t give him money, but he wanted to know why. I told him my bank wouldn’t allow it. He keeps pestering me about it. What should I do?
Beth
March 10, 2020

In reply to by carebear91

You are under no obligation to talk to him. Just stop!!
christopherlau…
January 31, 2020
Am dating a solider he ask my for £50 pound to new his internet connection says no
Cynthia Aurelio
February 25, 2020
THIS MAN HAS ASKED ME FOR MONEY FOR 2 YEARS HE GOT A LOT OF MONEY FROM ME ALWAYS PRESHERD ME FOR EMERGENCY MONEY. HE IS ON THE BP OIL PLATFORM. MY GRAN DAUGHTER RAN HIS PICTURES HE SENT TO ME. HIS INFORMATION BIG SCAM CON MAN. phillip lewry72@ GOES BY PHILLIP LEWRY. THEN WE FOUND HIM WITH THE SAME PICTURES. DAVIES STEVEN 444 ON INSTAGRAM davies steven 444 this man needs to be stopped he is on dating websites, piniest and Instagram older man with a scarf around his neck and a pictures with a red hat that sezes Buck Taylor and he has a black caroler with a tan jacket. he pressers women to send money to him ex. Itune cards, Stem cards, Bick coin, and money gram. Cynthia
Ollie1223
February 02, 2020
I’ve had this one scammer for Wile now. Oil rig engineer from Spain- wife died 5 yrs ago has 15 year old son who live s with Nanny in Spain. Now he’s stuck on rig and wants $40,000 to pay some of his workers and pay $3500 to pay the helicopter to take him off the rig. His name is James Walking- wants me to be his wife bla bla/ love right away Very handsome pictures but they were from some years ago. He’s almost 60. He wants the Amazon card- the whole deal. This one is so sincere it’s scary.
Broken heart
May 15, 2020

In reply to by Ollie1223

Sounds the same..Samuel Adam or Darrell Shore, Forties Alpha 2 platform Black Sea, broken drill plate 30k, then 6k for helicopter to leave rig due to illness. Profess love, marriage and his 15yr old boarding school germany 25k paid for emergency surgery blah blah I have pics if want to compare. Apache Oil I confirmed no such platform or wmployee
AngryDaughter
February 03, 2020
Has anyone spoken with a Vincent Marvin. From Denmark, but lives in Florida? He contacted my mom via Facebook messenger. If you search Facebook there are tons of fake socket accounts in Facebook under this name. He uses the oil rig story, needed a new iPhone as he dropped his in the water. Then he was in Turkey and stuck on a business trip and not able to get home, looking for help. He has been stranded in other places as well. He always seems to be getting the shaft when it comes to getting paid. He has used religion and God specifically to win my mom over. He has put his ‘daughter’ on the phone to show his family to her as well. Only communication is via Facebook messenger, Google Hangouts. He has asked for iTunes gift cards, Amazon gift cards to get by with and promises to pay back as soon as he gets some money. What kind of progress is being made to arrest these criminals? Honest, good-hearted people are being ripped off!!
Berryman
February 04, 2020
Have anyone been scammed by John petterson
Denise400
February 04, 2020
I almost got scammed by a guy who went by the name Prince Malcolm Eke. He claimed to be South African but was really Nigerian. He went on a business trip to England and claimed his cell phone was acting up he had the nerve to ask me to by him a phone car. He operates from Instagram. He lured me away from that site and asked me to download Skype.
CCAKES76
March 30, 2020

In reply to by Denise400

I think this guy is trying to talk to me. He said his name is Malcolm Eke. He lives in Waco, TX, and is in California on business. Did you ever talk to him on the phone and or video chat?
ddmorri
May 08, 2020

In reply to by CCAKES76

Hi, CCakes76, is Malcolm Light skin with blue eyes? does he say his mom is white and father is black? Did he make a video for you? Does he like watching movies in the evening. Did he promise to buy you a nice car and house? Does he exercise a couple times a day? Does he say he has 5 stores (telephone)
Maribel
February 04, 2020
I was scammed by a man whose name was Maxwell Coke, He was on an oil rig in the Black Sea. From Texas but had homes there and Georgia. Born in TX but lived in Spain most of life. He was an only child, wife died of cancer, no children and I was the love of his life. He asked me for $100.000. Was advised not to send it - thankfully I did not.I have 2 pictures he sent me. He needed this amount of money to pay for equipment he had rented for the rig that caused a a fire which killed 2 of his crew members. He lost all id, in China trying to replace the equipment. and was sued by family members of the family of his dead crew members for $500,000 plus hospital bells for each member. He said I was the love of his life even though he was 20 years younger than I. He is slick and full of romantic words.He chatted on Hangouts for 5 months and he wanted to get married if I would send this money. Fortunately I did not. But I feel really foolish for falling for him.
Dom77381
April 23, 2020

In reply to by Maribel

You shouldn't feel bad. I had a similar experience with three different women who claimed they needed money for food living in Ghana. They tend to put profiles on dating sites. I sent two of them some money ($50 each) before I did some research and found info for one of them living in Dallas. I informed the police, but nothing happened
don'tfallfor it
February 04, 2020
Oil Rig Scammer Tyler Woodgate. Says he is from Texas, stuck in Venezuela. A real Ronnie romantic, godly, lost his wife when she was giving birth. Promises to come back to US but never does and never will because he's a scam artist. He will convince you to buy him itune cards and then says you will get re-paid. Same song and dance as the thousands of others who have handed over thousands to these criminals.
Stop the scammers
February 05, 2020
Okay let’s put this out there Richard Benson is again scamming someone else. Someone I know got a scammed by sending him money and he said I love you right away also his wife died of cancer and he’s stuck on an oil rig. He can’t get off the rig and makes every excuse in the book. Also he has a daughter whose getting married. Also he’s from Mississippi. Also he has millions of dollars in the bank that he doesn’t have access too. Also he apparently owes the IRS over 150,000 dollars. And he has a Range Rover. This guy is a smooth talker that needs to be stopped
Debnurse
February 25, 2020

In reply to by Stop the scammers

Yes He is definitely the one who tried to scam me real smooth very convincing. Same issues not being able to get home. Watch out for Him !!!
stop this scammer
February 25, 2020

In reply to by Stop the scammers

Let’s try and stop this guy, Richard Benson, he offers women lot for money that he doesn’t have access to and it’s not even his money. This guy continues to say he’s on an oil rig, it doesn’t take long for this guy to ask for women for money or for their bank account info. Be aware of this scammer. He has hurt way too many people !! I’ve always known this guy was a scammer
not this girl
February 05, 2020
I have a guy I’m currently talking to that I met on hinge. Says his name is David peters from Denmark, but lives in AZ . Works as a Hyperbaric welder who’s currently in New Zealand. Been taking to him for almost 5 weeks and he recently asked my to help him out for his sons field trip for school. $615 I told him I could not. Not sure if anyone else has maybe talked to his guy . I have photos as well. He has an accent says all the same stuff I’ve been reading about. That he loves me ect...
AZgirl
February 07, 2020
I met someone in Zoosk, a dating site.. similar to one of the stories i read. He claimed to live in California, born in Sweden, his father was Sweden and his mom Colombian. He said he lost his wife 3 years ago to a cancer battle, and that he was ready for dating.. He said his name was Mark Heloise Wiland, a Gemologist.. then he made up a story about being in the mining business, he sent me fake letters from the Mining Ministry in Lithuania “confidential” lol ..then, he had the nerve to send me a fake police report from Lithuania Police Department that his wallet was stolen, and the whole circus began, he wanted me to send him 25k to pay his workers and the machinery etc etc. I was cracking up when i told him”my love, are you sure you just want 25k?” lol once he asked me for money i knew it was a scam. Be careful !!! I wanted to share my story , it might be of help to somebody. Thanks :)
Dondont call m…
February 08, 2020
Does anyone know a Greek man called Leo Kent. Nice to talk to haven’t asked for anything. He has a lot of Nigerian friends, works offshore on oil rig something is just not right.he saves he is retiring at 65 soon.he called me Gorgeous I am 75 all the usual bs that it doesn’t matter about my age I can’t work out if he is just wanting to be friends or not.
SaliK
March 21, 2020

In reply to by Dondont call m…

beware. Oil rig scam is common. Also, the age doesn't matter blah blah blah. He will have a problem on the rig eventually and bank issues and need help so he can finish the job and get back to you darling. Report him on the site you met on and to FBI at ic3.gov
Fooled 2
February 09, 2020
I was friended on Facebook. Good looking man. quickly moved the conversation to email. He seduced me with words with every email. Within 4 months he said he had to go over seas on business. That was 2 & 1/2 years ago. He keep giving reasons why he never came back when he was only suppose to be there 2 weeks. Said his name was Emmanuel Thompson. Whenever i questioned him or his motives he got furious. He tried to get me to send money, each time I refused. Said he would come see me but something always came up. No more. Blocked & Blocked and when he called on another (new) number Blocked again.
Almostgotmd
February 09, 2020
I have been on a dating site called Tinder I have ran across several scammers by the name of Hyun Kim, Bryan Brushy, Marc Antony And so many others using other peoples identity and trying to find ways to take anyone’s money that they can. First of all if someone tells you they love you after 2/3 days They are definitely a scammer I have learned keeping them on the actual dating app and ensuring that you give them no personal information because I have almost been caught several times sleeping and the worst part is looking for someone to just comfort you and love you spending time with you that is how they get you ladies we have to pay more attention and be more aware.
Lovingwrong
February 10, 2020
On January 11, 2020, I met a man on Facebook through messenger app, by the name of Dr. Tom Lucky who says that he works for the United Nation and currently working in Australia due to the wild fires. Tom is handsome and charming man who just blew me away with the attention he gave me. But here lies the problem, Tom has two children Jessica 15 and Oscar who turned 10 on Feb. 10. He even had his children send me email tell me how happy he was since meeting me. His wife died two years ago from breast cancer. We talked two and three times a day, making sure our schedules matched up. Until it got closer to his son's birthday....he asked me if I thought it good idea if he bought a iPhone for Oscar. I asked if he was a good student and a good kid. He said both kids was good and their Nanny makes sure they gets what they need. But, he asked me to buy two iphones for each child. I explained to him the only way I could do that was to add them to my T-Mobile account. I called T-Mobile and I needed $400.00 as a down payment. Which I was okay with, but Tom wanted me to buy them out right. Each phone cost $700.00 and I don't have that kind of money. I was so upset that we were fighting over money and I just couldn't deal with that. I decided to block him on all social media. I told him that I reported him to the FBI and the United Nations. I haven't spoken to him since. It broke my heart that this man was trying to scam me. I told him I wasn't comfortable with buying presents for people I never met. I'm so glad that I didn't buy those phones. There are some horrible people out here, doing some really mean stuff. Just be on guard.
nanabanana
February 11, 2020
Has anyone been scammed by a Terrance Williams (Levesque)? He works on a cargo ship and is in Egypt now at a hospital cuz he was in a car accident? His captains name is Marc G Levesque. Help??